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by Nicadeamus on 15 Nov 2009 23:26:04 |
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Anyway, I'll be OK and I am thinking of you and
your wife...I feel so badly that you had to go
through such an upsetting event. You're such a
good guy...it's never nice to hear such a thing
happened, but when it happens to someone who is as
kind and compassionate as you (and I'm sure your
wife) are, it makes it seem so much worse. Talk
soon...Hallie
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by my2cents2u on 12 Nov 2009 16:10:42 |
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The total numb feeling that I had after my dad
passed is not there with this loss and I'm much
more emotional. I think it's much more difficult
to lose one's remaining parent. There is a
feeling of having no one there to "have your
back"...even as an adult and being independent,
it's nice to feel there is someone who is always
there with your best interest at heart. My girls
are the thing that keeps me together. They need
me even more than ever now.
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by my2cents2u on 12 Nov 2009 16:08:28 |
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She is at peace now. Thankfully, she didn't
suffer and we were able to keep her comfortable
all the way to the end. I'm dreading the funeral.
I personally don't find it comforting to stand by
a casket with a loved one inside and greet all of
the people who come. Some people are comforted by
that, but I just find it too painful. Oh
well...gotta do it. I just want a chair and a
valium...
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by my2cents2u on 12 Nov 2009 16:05:50 |
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As far as what's new here, my mom passed on Sunday
night. She had slipped into a semi-coma not long
before she passed. I talked to her and told her I
understood that she had to go when she was ready
and that I would be as strong as possible for the
girls (she was very worried about her "babies").
I also told her that my sister and I would be
there for each other and I would miss her terribly
and always love her.
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by my2cents2u on 12 Nov 2009 15:58:58 |
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Even though you and your wife weren't home, I know
that having your home broken into feels like such
an invasion of privacy. Your home should feel
secure and when something like this happens, it
takes some of that security away. How are you and
your wife doing since that happened?
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by my2cents2u on 12 Nov 2009 15:18:48 |
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I'm glad that no one was home when the burglers
were there, but sorry to hear that the cat had
such an upsetting experience. I'm also very sorry
to hear about your dog. I know he lived a long
life and that he was loved very much. I'm sure he
knew he was very lucky to have you and your wife
as his human family.
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by my2cents2u on 12 Nov 2009 15:17:12 |
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I assume you and your wife weren't home at the
time? Is your dog ok? I'm glad that you are and
I'm sure your wife (or I would think you would
have said or not be on here) are both unharmed.
If you want to talk or vent, feel free. I hope
homeowners covers anything taken. Still, some
things have value beyond what they are worth
monetarily. Let me know how everything goes.
I'll be thinking of the two of you.
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by my2cents2u on 25 Oct 2009 17:46:11 |
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Oh jeez....I'm so sorry to hear that finsch. Did
they take much? Having your home broken into can
make people feel so violated. One's home is
supposed to feel safe and secure. I'm sorry you
and your wife have to go through this. Sorry
about the doors too. How is your wife taking it?
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by my2cents2u on 25 Oct 2009 17:43:15 |
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Thanks for the compliment and for your helpful
response to that debate. I'll have to look over
some of Lynn's posts. I'm also going to look in
some medical journals. What's funny is that K9
referred to me as noncents and now it would seem
that the empathy debate has become about me.
Seems they want to go back to bickering, but I am
not going to be baited this time. It's pointless.
How has your weekend been? Do anything fun? : )
Hallie
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by my2cents2u on 25 Oct 2009 14:15:09 |
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PS. Start reading the book I wrote you at the one
that starts with "Hi Finsch"...I guess you knew
that already...lol.
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by my2cents2u on 19 Oct 2009 17:31:46 |
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I'm glad there was no reason that I hadn't been
hearing from you. I'm sure I imagined it because
of my emotional state being a bit fragile right
now. You're a good guy and a genuinely nice
person. Thank you for your support. It means a
lot and I truly appreciate it. : ) Hallie
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by my2cents2u on 19 Oct 2009 17:31:02 |
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It took two years to feel like myself again and
the grief still comes back at times like it was
just yesterday, but we all have to cope with loss
and his passing was peaceful and he was allowed to
pass with dignity at home, like my mom will. I
honestly couldn't imagine going through this
again, but I have kids and need to be strong for
them. Of course that doesn't mean that they can't
see me sad. I just can't wall myself off from the
world.
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by my2cents2u on 19 Oct 2009 17:29:29 |
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When it was the time to let my daddy go, I
couldn't lie to him...never did. I just told him
that I understood that he needed to go when he was
ready and that I would find a way to try to be ok
and continue to live my life. I also told him
that he would forever live in my memories. They
seem to fear being forgotten at the end.
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by my2cents2u on 19 Oct 2009 17:26:50 |
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She said one of her friend's names and said they
weren't "over there". I didn't even think before
opening my mouth and said, "Why, is she in
Hell?"....Mom did laugh, thankfully and I started
to laugh. I had been crying up to that point.
Like mom knows who is in Hell, if there is a
literal Hell. Even though I am a believer, I
don't know what my beliefs of Hell actually are.
Seems too horrible to contemplate.
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by my2cents2u on 19 Oct 2009 17:22:40 |
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I know the time will come when we will have to let
her know it's ok to let go. Right now, she has
moments where she's totally lucid and I think she
might think we were insane...lol...have to find
some humor at times in a very depressing
situation. Yesterday, she was saying something
and we thought she meant she saw people who have
already passed....(this gets really funny)....
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by my2cents2u on 19 Oct 2009 17:20:17 |
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Hi Finsch...How's your day? I keep finding more
suggestions from Miller that you end it all....it
makes me angry, to say the least. I know you
don't take it seriously, but I don't like the
callous disregard for life. Anyway, thank you for
the kind words about my mom. She's comfortable
most of the time...at least she isn't in horrible
pain. Still, it's painful to see her this way.
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by my2cents2u on 19 Oct 2009 17:17:08 |
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Hey there...I haven't chatted with you lately and
wanted to say hi. I responded to your miller
debate, but then, I realized that it might have
been meant more as a joke or to get a rise out of
him and I actually posted an honest
response...lol. My bad. My mind isn't as sharp
as usual sometimes here lately....
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by my2cents2u on 18 Oct 2009 15:06:22 |
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"Yeah but you're Sly by definition. You said you
don't smoke it but you could be eating some right
now"......... That totally made my day
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by SlyOne on 14 Oct 2009 22:34:22 |
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Thank you for your advice.
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by GKDebator on 14 Oct 2009 05:50:01 |
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