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I love negative reinforcement. MUHAHAHA |
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Yep!! Id certainly prefer that to the alternative, a world where rapists and killers are frowned at
and people who give up their seat on the bus are awarded medals, gold, presidency etc |
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Watching people get punished is just naturally more enjoyable than watching them succeed - I think
it's just human nature. |
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Yes.
Because no good deed goes unpunished. |
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This is so true, i recently started trying to praise people more, just showing them how much you
appreciate all the little things they do, and once i started trying to do this i realised just how
little i did do it and i think it is true the world over, the sad thing is that it can mean so much
when someone just says well done, you did great or whatever.
And I'm sure with kids if you praised them for what they had done well instead of just telling them
off, they would try to get the good attention more, and thus might behave slightly better, I'm
practicing it with my son right now lol, so i will let ya know if it works. Lol. |
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Unfortunately, this is a very accurate assessment. The problem is that most societies tend to view
punishment as a way to keep law-abiding citizens safe from criminals and to make sure that felons
pay for their crimes. As such, the emphasis is on retribution, rather than on reform.
This logic and reasoning behind punishment also explains why we place much less emphasis on
rewarding good deeds. Most of us are only proactive when we detect the existence of a threat, which
must be stopped by immediate action. Good deed and acts of compassion don't require an immediate
response of any kind, as these charitable actions will not negatively impact our lives at all. This
is why many parents are more likely to scold their kids when they break rules or are mischievous,
but may be much less likely to give them equal praise when they act in a commendable manner. The
same is true for teachers who hand back an essay to their student full of red ink--highlighting all
of its shortcomings--without recognizing the positive aspects of their work. Pointing out the bad
is perceived as a duty, while praising the good is merely an option. |
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Yeah... And then eventually the good get sick and tired and turn bad! |
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I thought I had better put at least something in the red zone.
I have a bit of a problem with the word "instinct". Not sure if applicable. If we stick with the
word instinct, then the closest thing I can think of is the Mother (or Father)/ Child relationship.
Here we usually see just the opposite of the default negative to punish. We see the Mother
encouraging, finding every positive, looking and rewarding every little step of development of the
infant. Therefore, I think "instinctually", we look for the good.
As we grow older, for some reason, this changes, and I would agree that it seems there is much more
fault finding and punishment. I do not believe in "blind" esteem building, but more balance in
words and rewards for "job well done" seems in order. |
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10 Jun 2008 18:27
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