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The Sexual Nature Of Men Is A Burden.
We are constantly stimulated and distracted as part of our nature. It is misunderstood, and can cause terrible problems in the lives of some men.
 innomen  07 May 2008 18:31
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I Agree i get annoyed at myself some times because of my urges and lust. This is overly distracting and sometimes insulting to some.
 
 Smito  14 Jun 2008 17:14
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It is a burden. We have this hunk of flesh between our legs which is constantly subject to friction from clothing, and fairly easily becomes erect even at just the sight of a good looking woman. And when women are around us our biology tells us to try and have sex with them. It's a constant battle. Not that we can't win it, but its a burden to have to deal with it. I wouldn't say that we can't control ourselves, but it's a burden to do so.
 
 nefarious  13 Jun 2008 17:10
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 your honesty at least is refreshing.
we all know it anyway.....why isnt everyone so honest about the male sexual experience?

women? same thing. but the difference? if I were to describe you you how hard it is for women that way? I would be tarred and feathered for the same candid honesty.

Its hypocrisy of society. Sad.
by  Scorpion
 26 Jul 2008 22:33
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I agree. I vaguely remember a quote about female sexuality from a Piers Anthony book... Something along the lines of... "Human females responded by developing the most devastating arsenal in the history of sexual warfare." Or maybe it was Stephen Baxter.

I suspect the reason it is mystifying and weird to women is that we don't come close to matching them in sheer attractiveness and beauty, so they don't have the constant struggle.

Ladies, y'all is too much.
 
 OzzieMan  05 Jun 2008 04:51
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 Ahem, speak for yourself.
by  innomen
 05 Jun 2008 10:32
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I'm for the whole, sex gets men into trouble. Because I'm sick of them walking so close to me, or making weird sounds with their teeth in a nasty manner, or just staring like a sick puppy! Men are on a lot of occasions dogs. They try to hump every leg they see. BUT!! I still love men, they're so cute!!
 
 SpicyGirl  08 May 2008 08:15
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 You tease.
by  StBalders
 05 Jun 2008 18:25
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The thing that causes terrible problems is that they can't "keep the snake in the cage" as it were. I find it hard to accept that it is part of every male's nature to be led astray, but it is essentially the choices they make in regards to the temptations laid in their way that gets them into trouble. Remember, there is always a choice.
 
 Jakers  07 May 2008 18:53
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 women are horny too. There is no difference in how their desires for sex are used against them too.
men do not have a market on this weakness.
guys always use their prowess in the sack to manipulate us into....going along with their agenda, and you know it...;-)
by  sylverwyld
 03 Nov 2008 22:18
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Women cannot understand the relentless aspect of our nature that permeates our thoughts, and even our behavior. It is our nature to look at someone who is attractive to us, and it is our nature to behave differently around those that we are attracted toward.
 
 innomen  07 May 2008 18:33
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 I finally worked out at the age of about 20 (better late than never) that women love sex just as much as we do and what you say applies to them just the same.
by  StBalders
 07 May 2008 18:41
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That's why God gave us hands.
 
 Specter87  04 Nov 2008 20:27
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I don't quite understand what is going on there.;-))
 
 keepmindok  02 Nov 2008 04:42
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Not a chance. Two highly-sexual people make great spouses.
 
 sylverwyld  02 Nov 2008 04:19
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You can control yourself. This is just an excuse to be a pig, and get pity. Sure you get urges, but you still are in control, you make the with the head on your shoulders, not the one between your legs.
 
 Natorian  31 Aug 2008 01:24
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 I didn't mean to imply that it was an excuse to be "out of control". On the contrary, it is the constant effort of control that i speak of.
by  innomen
 04 Nov 2008 19:35
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I'm one of the few guys without those burdens....
 
 keetonman  11 Aug 2008 12:58
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This is so absurd. As if sexuality were undesirable.... I don't think so! Women are just as sexual, believe it. Maybe even more so than men, women are just more deceitful about hiding it better, and the arousal doesn't show, the way a man's does.
If a man is being a jerk about it, then yes, that's just nasty, but women can be jerks to guys who turn them down when they want it as well!
I think that it is unwise to generalize where sexuality is concerned. Furthermore, desires vary GREATLY from individual to individual.
Anyone of any gender can be a jerk about it.
It is a person thing, not a gender thing.
If your with a man who is so aggressive about it and nasty? Find someone more patient and considerate.
Do not write of an entire species ;-)
 
 Scorpion  13 Jul 2008 18:24
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I think it’s a misconception (and cop-out) to say that men cannot control themselves sexually because of so much visual stimulus.
First, why do we automatically assume that men think about sex more often than women? I think that’s believed only because that’s what pop culture tells us.
As for the cop-out factor, doesn’t this notion tend to excuse crimes like rape -- the old defense of “She was wearing sexy clothes, and I couldn’t help myself.”
I don’t think that all men are sexually irresponsible and can’t control themselves. Isn’t that stereotyping?
I also don’t buy the idea that men are naturally promiscuous. I think that it is more socially acceptable (and thus easier) for men to cheat on their partners. We just laugh and look the other way -- but if the wife does it, she is a tramp. Yes, I am talking about a blatant double standard.
 
 chispa  07 May 2008 20:38
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 I think men do think about sex more because women dress provocative in American culture... it's a really a stank fest.
by  Bacchus
 08 May 2008 02:51
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A burden, Nay a blessing, the burden is the
groups and societies That limit the actions
of the male sapien, everyone wants to be needed, better still every one needs to be wanted, the human Horny-mones provide that, the gods marvel the sapiens, for the
unlimited desires that they are otherwise
persicuted or chatise for. Thus the makers envy the made.
 
 Bacchus  07 May 2008 20:28
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Why would it be a burden to be able to appreciate the beauty of a woman? Even if it is every woman within thirty miles. Essentially, guys look at women the way women look at shirts, they can be walking through the store and they will walk up to whatever they see, look at it, say how cute it is, and walk away.
 
 eisenhower  07 May 2008 19:22
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 So, you think that if you are with a girl and another attractive looking girl walks by your head is just as likely to turn as if i a good looking guy walks by?
by  innomen
 07 May 2008 19:25
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