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I Should Confront My Roommate About Having Sex With His Girlfriend While I Am In The Room
Last night I got up into my loft to go to bed. My roommate and his girlfriend were both in the room laying on the futon below my bed. I talked to both for a little before turning over to fall asleep. Within minutes, I started hearing ruffling noises coming from below. Then, I started to hear loud breathing and thrusting. I never looked to make sure, but I'm certain they were having sex. What would you do? I'm not opposed to them having sex, but should I stop them when I'm there?
 JagBomb24  22 Mar 2009 21:39
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Total lack of respect for you and themselves as well. I would confront them both and lay down the law - if they want to have sex when your home - they can go elsewhere. Sex is private - especially if they are a couple.
 
 Bonnie  26 Mar 2009 00:34
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You can
1. Tape it
2. Join
3. You can pop up from bed, be like "shoot i forgot (subject) homework!" while your turning on the light! Then that would ruin the whole mood and be sooo funny!
--or--
4. (old fashioned) tell them straight up
 
 -_-  24 Mar 2009 23:54
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Being the roommate is question I would appreciate if you had told me before posting for all the world to see. Now I feel obligated to post the video of myself and Stacy doing the deed.

Http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mw9JAS9ryXc
 
 Specter87  24 Mar 2009 01:47
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 Do I even want to know what that link goes to to?
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 24 Mar 2009 01:49
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Remind him that it is your room too. Tell him to get out. Tell him to move into a bush.
 
 tiny101  24 Mar 2009 01:12
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If it does bother you make them stop. But put some thought into it; I've already read the possible commentary and video taping of them. I would use your imagination.
 
 verum  23 Mar 2009 17:54
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"Hey guys either I get the next ride on this merry go round or you fools need to move the carnival into your own friggin room, dummies." And when you say dummies you have to say it just like Fred Sanford said it to Lamont.
 
 finsch  23 Mar 2009 12:48
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Grenache is right. If you feel you have in someway contributed to the couple taking to making out while you are there, maybe they are hoping you either don't mind or are quite open to it or more. If on the other hand you feel they don't give a toss, it is a form of bullying and if I it was me, they would get the sharp end of my tongue, it would be act like a cold shower to them both.
 
 keepmindok  23 Mar 2009 08:55
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If I were you, I would make every effort to ruin the mood. I think they would eventually get the hint. Maybe start a conversation with them as soon as you hear what is going on. You could also, find lots of excuses to get in and out of your bed, or pick up your cell phone and start chatting, playing with your ringers, playing loud games on your cell or computer. If they still do not get that sex is supposed to be private and not something that they make a habit out of doing right underneath you as you try to sleep, I guess you will have to say something to them. If this was only a very rare occasion, I would assume that they simply got in the mood at an inappropriate time once in a while, but for this to continue is rather disturbing. I know I would be very uncomfortable with this happening frequently, Honestly, it would gross me out even once in a while, but I would try to keep the peace if it weren't a regular occurrence. I feel for ya.
 
 my2cents2u  23 Mar 2009 06:25
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Get out of the bed.
Don't make eye contact.
Act like a zomby and go get something to drink.
Come back without any eye contact.
Return to bed.

Make them realize you're there. (but don't act like you know they're there)

(if you can) Then just keep farting.

And snorting.
 
 gottfried  23 Mar 2009 04:03
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 No no no. Offer a running commentary, ala Mystery Science Theater 3000. Make snide comments. Heck, do it like a sports commentary. That'll make 'em stop. :)
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 23 Mar 2009 08:43
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Depends. Does it turn you on?
 
 Hizashi  23 Mar 2009 03:38
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 hahaha are you being serious? lol
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 23 Mar 2009 04:07
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That'd be so uncomfortable I'd say stop them lol
 
 yu_yevin  23 Mar 2009 03:24
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That's just one of those things that makes people uncomfortable....so yeah, i feel like he should already know that its weird to have sex when your roommate is in the room, but since he doesn't, you should let him know.
 
 mariafu  23 Mar 2009 03:23
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On the one hand you are fully within your right as a roommate to expect mutual courtesy. If you were to consider their sex offensive or disruptive to your sleep then yes you should say something. But on the other hand, depending on your age (?) and whether you're in college and whether you have some precedent discussing sex and girls with your roommate and may have lead him to believe you might be cool with this sort of thing then in those cases you may want to cut some slack.

In the end it's your decision. Stand up for yourself if you feel wronged. Let it go if it didn't really bother you.
 
 Grenache  23 Mar 2009 01:13
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No, you should have a good time and watch ;)
 
 Assbandit  03 Apr 2009 14:04
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Tape it and put it on the Internet
 
 clarkdavid  03 Apr 2009 12:20
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What are you ? A prude ! ! It's as much his space as yours unless you pay ALL the bills ! If it bothers you that much then tell your roommate that it upsets you ! Grow some balls ! ! !
 
 ZMAN4U2HVE  31 Mar 2009 05:22
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 You posted on the wrong side.
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 31 Mar 2009 06:28
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Simple....ask to join....problem solved
 
 coelho  23 Mar 2009 15:11
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 Unless shes a fat cow ! ! (hee-hee)
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Sell tickets to your friends or something. This is your opportunity, ride it.
 
 Homestar  23 Mar 2009 00:06
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Record it, blackmail them. Confronting them can only lead to them lashing out at you or stopping. In the first outcome you come off worse than you went in, in the second you miss a golden opportunity.
 
 Quincel  22 Mar 2009 21:46
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 LOL....your mind works in some very creative ways. I had two roommates in an apartment for a while. While one of them and his girlfriend did not "get down to business" right in he same room as me, I would sometimes get up for a drink or to use the bathroom and, oh my, what a sight. They did not even bother with covers. One would think that, after I had the misfortune of walking in on them a few times, that might have made them think twice or, at the very least, try to be somewhat subtle or stop when I came out of my room. No...my presence had no effect on their fun. I wish I would have thought about the blackmail idea, or simply taken a few snapshots and passed them around...LOL. Where were you when I needed this advice? LMAO Good one!
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 23 Mar 2009 06:13
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