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Just witness the number of female celebs who are bleach blondes with fake breasts - we as a culture
eat this stuff up - we men don't care & most women fall right in line |
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Generally, this is true. The truth can hurt. |
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Most of the time, yes. |
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Most people certainly do, yes. The majority of people prefer a comforting lie over the
uncomfortable truth and when you challenge their comfortable lies, they get extremely defensive. |
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I don't but most people do - yes!
I think that society (and mass schooling) has conditioned people to think that way. When they grow
up a little, they know who they are and pretending to be someone else becomes something they don’t
have time for. Some grow out of it so well that they know early on not to pretend because it will
come back and bite you later in life…of course you can pretend then too. I know some adults who
have yet to grow out of it. Come to think of it most of them do drugs so maybe that is what keeps
them at that level.
I grew up in the late 70’s and early 80’s and had materialistic parents to boot. My whole world
was plastic (meaning fake)! Our parents didn’t allow us to watch the news because we might learn
something about reality. They didn’t talk about drugs because that would be like admitting they
exist. They protected us from the wrong thing - reality! My generation learned to live in a
plastic world while the next generation learned to BE plastic.
Today, teens get to see reality and intimacy (which is supposed to be private) on the TV, cell phone
or computer daily. When I was growing up, if a girl from a middle class family was swiftly enrolled
in “boarding school” in another state everyone knew it was because she was pregnant – they
knew the family couldn’t afford a prestigious school - but didn’t dare speak of it, just the
word “pregnant” itself was taboo in many households. (In the later 80’s is when it became
cool to gossip about it.) People lied to kids about who they were, grandparents were raising babies
as their own – anything to hide the truth. I can not even imagine lying to my kids and telling
them their biological Mom was there sister! But a lot of that happened and more - all in the name
of hiding the truth. |
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People are the most defensive about the biggest truths of who they are. Most people cannot handle a
hard honest look at themselves. For some it would be the best thing they could do for themselves,
others might be destroyed by the revelation. |
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Honest self-reflection and self-critique are among the most difficult tasks for all humans to engage
in, mainly because it is not very pleasant to face our weaknesses. At the same time, denial implies
that somewhere deep down inside, people know the truth about themselves, but are simply unwilling or
unable to consciously admit it. This a good sign, however, as it shows that while most of us may be
inclined towards self-deception, at least we are not actually delusional.
Denial and lies always offer the easiest way out of a predicament, as people can justify inaction
based on the false belief that there is no need to change or reform anything, or to confront a
difficult situation. I am not sure, however, if others will be able to see through the artificial
self-image that people want to project to the outside world. Most of us are only really our honest
selves when we are alone, or with very close family, best friends or loved ones. In most other
situations, we know how to put on a show and can probably be quite convincing about it to others.
Yet the fact that we consciously project an image of ourselves that is not accurate serves as
evidence of the fact that we are also aware of our being in a state of denial. |
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This is not a truthful statement. So, no, I disagree. |
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NO! I sure hope not. I'd like to think that people are naturally honest and prefer being told the
truth instead of a lie. |
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31 May 2008 22:27
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