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Marriage Is Like A Game Of Musical Chairs
People decide they want to marry, and then fall in love with the most suitable person. It's as if the music suddenly stopped for them in the dating game. The opposing view would be that people with no desire to settle down find themselves in love and married.
 Lynn  12 Aug 2008 22:13
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Fine with me as long as the chair is an easyboy recliner, with a TV table next to it full of snacks and a big screen TV in front of it. Oh and no vacuuming while I'm watching the game. In other words this analogy is not a good model for a happy marriage. However, it is fine if you're looking for a job as a live-in maid.
 
 kkcoyne  29 Dec 2008 18:39
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 I use the recliner approach myself. I think you're envisioning girls who started planning their wedding when they were 10 and whose ambitions focused on snagging a husband. Most people would not consider their best suited partner as a loutish oaf or mother substitute.

The desire to settle down with a mate hits both men and women at a variety of ages.
by  Lynn
 30 Dec 2008 12:53
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Nice analogy. I like analogies.
 
 Specter87  02 Dec 2008 02:19
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 How about my ability to extend a metaphor far beyond the industry's recommended limits?
by  Lynn
 02 Dec 2008 08:01
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I can see how you're getting this. You're seeking someone (going around the chairs), you meet that someone (the music stops), and you marry them (you sit down). However, I think it's different for everybody.
 
 bookworm3  02 Dec 2008 02:15
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 No.....I stopped looking......I would sit down if he would.....actually:-)
by  sylverwyld
 02 Dec 2008 02:16
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Happy glorious 12th.

I believe it is a trick of nature and timing.
It might be that our most suitable opposite turns up. I have also observed that couples can have similarities in facial structure.
 
 keepmindok  12 Aug 2008 22:59
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 I think timing is key, but based on ambitions and career goals. People who marry right out of high school seem settled on getting a regular job and living in the same town. When you move around a lot, you think that the perfect person is waiting on the other side of the hill,
by  Lynn
 16 Aug 2008 05:46
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You are turning me off. Just keep talking:-(
 
 sylverwyld  02 Dec 2008 02:09
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 I don't understand your argument. But your posting "men never want to marry" emphasizes the point that both people must be laying the same game . If he's simply taking a break from touring the carnival, he'll soon be off and running to ride the roller coaster and experience the Haunted House of Hades.
by  Lynn
 02 Dec 2008 08:21
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I think you illustrate the typical scenario just fine. However in my situation I had no urge to ‘settle down’ until I happened to meet the right person. I had actually come to the conclusion that marriage was not a particularly viable option due to the fact that I had personally witnessed so few marriages that represented something I would find suitable. And though I had known some very interesting, marvelous woman there always seemed like there was an awareness in both parties that the relationship had a timeline built in from the beginning. And while that dynamic was not something that made me happy it was certainly better than being in the wrong marriage.
 
 finsch  06 Oct 2008 07:32
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Well,.....it happens that you meet that extra special Someone only after you have no more faith in it, or thought of even meeting someone.......
It is the irony of the Universe: You don't find Love until you are cynical and skeptical of it all - then, - Voila! - there Cupid uses the biggest arrow of all on you.....;-)

LOL at the sense of humour in the Sky. ;-)
 
 Scorpion  13 Aug 2008 02:37
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 Perhaps at that point you are prepared both to settle and to settle down. You're beginning to accept the fact you probably won't become a rock star, and none of the supermodels return your calls. You're tired of dating and tired of pointless women and then you find someone who you really like.
by  Lynn
 16 Aug 2008 05:43
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