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I kinda agree cause u can do all the same thing even when ur not married but also a wedding would be
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I have been in a relationship with my PARTNER for about 5 years now. Im 23, hes 30. We have NO
interest in marriage, I truly believe if I got married today it would be to please society and my
family.
We love eachother, thats all I need. Im extremely happy and content. I need a GOOD reason to get
married.
To me it does seem like all for money (cause divorce rates are incredible), and hate to say this all
for show. Yes some couple are all for marriage and great!! Thats fantastic, but if its not
something for everyone, just get over it!
I dont need a piece of paper, or a crowd to PROVE that I love someone!!! Just the idea of me and him
together, and the CONSTANT affection is more than enough for me. We barely fight, we communicate,
what more do I need??!
Im VERY HAPPY and I love him IMMENSELY!
I couldnt and I wont ask for more =) |
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If two people want to be together, they do not need a piece of paper stating they are in love and
legally bound. If they make the mistake of marrying, they should be able to leave. My parents are
divorced and in all honesty, it would have been easier if one just left without the stress of the
divorce.
Oh, and I'm absolutely atheist, so religion is not really a factor in my opinion. |
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I agree. |
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Saddly the non heterosexual couples REALLY want marrage (sorry not sure of the proper PC term there
without offending someone)
But Why? Marrage really is pointless, And a HUGE waste of money that could be spent elsewhere, then
you have the divorce, More money when it all could have been avoided with a simple I'll be this man,
youll be this woman, if we change oh well we'll cross that bridge then. |
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I do not like traditional weddings. My opinion of a wedding is shackles and chains. You do not have
to be officially documented to be faithful to each other. Marriage is Kids okay a wedding is all
about the rings, cake and a waste of money. |
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Hmmmmm i would have to say i agree, because in my eyes marriage is really just for the wedding isn't
it? I think two people can be faithful to each other without having the 'I can't do this i'm
married' cloud over their head. Besides adam and eve weren't married to all those who are gonna come
in with religion. |
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Marriage is just a proclamation that has been around for a few centuries. It was to lay claim on the
woman as his property in many places just like a title on a car. We have changed the definition to
be more loving and compassionate but it wasn't that long ago that women were property of there
husbands here in the US. |
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Marriage is a sacred vow of love and trust, despite any person's location or religious background.
Some people are not necessarily ready for that type of commitment, but many are. |
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I agree.
I think that in today's world and society, it is just to make people feel safer in their
relationships.
Because in marriage it is harder to get out of them |
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Depending, yes |
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It depends on their view of love. |
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Marriage is simply a financial pension for women,& legalized rape for men. |
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I don't think that is right in anyway for a government to litigate how I feel about another person.
The reasons people go into marriage are personal ones, so why should it be law?
How is my relationship to another (or others) of any less depth and meaning than another couple just
because they have a piece of paper backing them up?
Furthermore, there are other rules surrounding marriage that are based on morality and religion,
such as only being able to marry one person or not marrying ones step-sibling. |
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Marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper to show your love for your partner. I don't believe
it is an important factor in a relationship. A wedding, on average, costs a lot of money. I believe
a couple in love should use that amount of money to invest in a house, a car, a life together. If
two people love each other, marriage shouldn't have to exist to them. They know their love without
standing in front of a group of people to confess it publicly. |
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People today are not as religious as they were in the early 1900's and i believe most people don't
find it as necessary any more i know someone that has been in a relationship for 40 yrs had two
kids and didn't get married. People may also not get married because then they know they are always
together and if they ceat on one another they are more likely to stay together when they're married
because they had a whole ceremont and everything |
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People today just get married to later break up.
People today don't take relationships as serious as they should. Cheating has become common,
specially when your married.
Whats the point in marriage.??? |
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As long as a safeguard is in place for ensuring children are not abandoned then I agree with you
completely.
They could replace marriage with a limited term contractual agreement, including clauses
pre-determining future separation of wealth and assets, future responsibilities to offspring, etc.,
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Marriage might not be outdated but you can surely see how it has changed through out the years...you
see more and more divorces every day..i personally do not believe in marriage because who needs a
piece of paper and a ring on their finger to show love? Marriage might be lovely to some
people...sharing one heart and all that but honestly you can do everything without getting
married..and that's what you see more and more people doing |
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Honestly, can you name two couples of your acquaintance whose marriages you whole-heartedly admire?
I thought not.
Marriage has become an absolute joke in our society. It used to be that people (especially women)
married for “security.” But what kind of security is there when the average U.S. First marriage
lasts just four years?
So many couples rushed into marriage out of physical attraction and now hate each other but see no
financial or emotional way out. So they slog along, often to the psychological detriment of their
children.
Marriage is an extremely serious legal contract, which head-over-heels-in-love couples fail to
comprehend. A divorce can have far-reaching financial consequences, especially if you have assumed
each other’s debts or real-estate holdings.
No, the only reason for a couple to marry is if they intend to have children. Even then, it is no
guarantee you will stay together -- or be happy. |
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There seems to be three things at work here: Marriage, love, and devotion.
All of these are good things. Love is great nothing beats it. If you love someone you should marry
them, cuz that proves your love. Then being married devotion will simply be there your love of
course being the backbone of your marriage and devotion simply making sense.
Oh wait... I'm on the FOR marriage is bad side... Lemme spit some truth for ya...
I cannot IMAGINE what kind of glass house someone must live in to be able to throw stones at someone
who doesn't believe in marriage and not have their face cut up left and right from the cieling and
walls falling down around them.
If someone is in a marriage and are not in love they just... Stay married? End of argument? Are
there really people in the world who forbid themselves the rationale that maybe they married the
wrong person?
How miserable of a life must you be willing to live to enter into a bond with someone without the
background safety net, and frankly life experience, to at least fear this venture may be
disappointing.
The problem isn't marriage persay, it's rushing into marriage. However, couple remaining chaste
with familiar approval and it can be a very powerful urge, need, and frankly temptation to get
married. That doesn't mean you're a bad person. It doesn't mean anything. Much like marriage
doesn't mean anything.
Now... Devotion... Devotion and love are quite intertwined. If you escape your devotion to someone
you love that person, if equally devoted, absolutely knows, but will never suspect. Hard to
imagine, hard to articulate, absolutely true. The loss of self when the person you love loses that
love upon being told you have cheated on them is so mockingly painful... Truly, you have cheated
yourself from a life that could have been...
Still, marriage is no rubber stamp for happiness. Then again, love isn't either. Marriage just
seems unnecessary to me. It seems superfluous and entirely unromantic. Can't you designate an
anniversary date as your special day. Or celebrate your love everyday? What is significant about a
marriage?
Also i realize much on here supporting marriage has included the religious and social impacts of
marriage. You people seem to be endorsing marrying the right person more than addressing the
context that marriage tends to be encountered in modern day places like Earth and other
non-dreamworld islands off the coast of fantasy. |
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Marriage is impractical but so is love and i wouldn't give that up |
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Marriage, as we all know, is a social procedure with the help of which two separate individuals tie
the knot with each other and spend the rest of their lives together. Since ancient times there were
many customs regarding marriage but as and when time passed by everything changed and marriage got
classified into two categories, namely Love Marriage and Arranged Marriage. Though in both the cases
the names describe their individuality but nowadays there has been a lot of change in the social
scenario of marriage. No longer marriage is given the previous priority as the world is changing in
a fast pace and people are also getting habituated with this fast changing lifestyle. Thus no one is
having enough time to get into such a pre-decided notion. Marriage nowadays is an outdated and an
impractical idea which people are not being interested in. |
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The idea that marriage leads to happiness and love is a myth. It used to be the only way to survive
in a difficult world. The only reason the divorce rate keeps going up is because people are more
free to get out of bad situations. People base their belief in 'a happy marriage' on the image that
couples want to people to see. |
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I have been saying this for along time. People in today's world have changed the concept of
marriage, and I'm not referring to gay or straight. Marriage used to be a sanction, a unity, a
blessing. When you vowed, you vowed for life. With today's society, people can't even vow to
themselves any more, more less to another person. People today are so stuck on themselves, they
have become greedier, and most haven't been raised with values and morals that were taught in the
last generation.
I also think that marriage is over rated because it changes everything. If you think back to people
you've known... Many many of them are more successful in their relationship if they only 'date' or
'live together'. It appears to me that a marriage certificate defines you as a piece of property. |
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I tend to agree that marriage is outdated in today's modern society. I don't think that we should
have yearly options but a secure legal framework for unmarried couples to protect them any any
children they might have.
In the case of unmarried fathers they have few rights if their name doesn't appear on their child's
birth certificate. Some unmarried mothers may omit to register children in both parents names.
Unmarried couples( and married ones too) need to make wills and legally protect their families.
Woman have so many choices now and marriage doesn't have to be one of them. A high proportion of
women are deciding against marriage and motherhood and this must be their choice and respected.
Some relationships outside marriage can last for a lifetime.. It's not essential to marry and
religious pressures are not taken as seriously as they were in the past.
I do think that married and non- married couples should all respect and care for each other equally
in whatever marital or non- marital situation they choose. Not being married shouldn't make
separation easier within a committed relationship. |
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There is a barely a couple that make it through marriage happily. The problem is that it is a
useless and functionless societal requirement. Marriage is a set of rules by which we have had to
live our lives with another person of the opposite sex and I can't see the value of it.
Marriage is very expensive, it gives the couple nothing more than a legally binding agreement and
how was love ever about legally binding two people together, I can't think of a more horrific thing
to do to a couple but to lash them together using the law as the bind.
In many relationships, the fuss around the binding together of two people places immense strain on
the couple. In traditional marriages, it allows the couple to live together and to have sexual
intercourse to have children together. But neither of these things require marriage, they are just
more socially accepted if they are done within the ancient framework of marriage but if you are not
a religious person, who cares about marriage, I can't think of any positive benefits to marriage
beyond the simplest legal issues of ownership of joint possessions.
Perhaps marriages should last for five years and then have an option to renew them if required.
Surely that would allow unhappy people to dissolve their nonsense relationships easily enough. Or
perhaps they could have L' plate marriages, only valid for a year.
I don't believe marriage needs to be part of a modern society, I think people would be much happier
being freer and less restrained by social convention. |
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I go on your page, and I see debates all about marriage and relationships (teen pregnancy?!?!?) Is
it because something's up with YOUR love life, or is it your passion???? Besides, marriage is
something that bonds you closer with a special someone, and I'm guessing that you haven't
experienced it yet, considering the fact you made up this debate in the first place... |
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Marriage is a commitment. Living together is an arrangement. It isn't just a piece of paper chump. |
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Marriage is a tradition. Also, a religious thing. |
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May I assume that you are a man, no matter how metrosexual you portray yourself? If you are a man,
or a very young, naive woman, of course the concept of marriage is outdated. It's just a piece of
paper.
As you become more knowledgeable in the ways of the world, you realize how important those "little
pieces of paper" are. |
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I disagree
10 points |
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Marriage is important. People tend to think of it as a purely spiritual thing, but it is a contract
of commitment, for better for worse, in sickness and in health. It means something now as it always
did. Even in an open marriage you forsake all others in 'lasting' terms |
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I believe that marriage is still a very good thing! You are supposed to be married to have sex and
if everyone was living right then no one would have sex if no one was married. Then the population
would die and it wouldn't really matter what anyone cared about marriage. So I think that marriage
is still a good thing. |
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Against it |
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Just because something's a tradition, doesn't exactly mean it's outdated. Romantic love, soulmates,
and spending your life with someone is a timeless concept so how could it possibly be outdated?
Impractical? It's actually quite the opposite. Married couples are provided a great deal of
conveniences and favors that aren't provided to unmarried couples.You appear to be a more serious
and stable couple when you're married and thus are more likely to be chosen as an adoptive parent.
Also, marriage is more serious than just going steady because it's harder to get out of. |
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Marrige is a sarcred ceromony betwen a man and a women sharing their love and being COMMITED to
eachother the rest of ppl who just live with their partners are either afraid of commitment or just
lazy! |
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Seeing how men can never commit in womens eyes then of the greatest things we could do for them is
marry them to show what they mean to us. As for the rest its only impractical if you do it 3 times |
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Marriage is not like a dairy product with an expiration date; marriage is like any institution in
that it is as strong as those that believe in it and in Western society-or the world for that
matter, millions upon millions still believe in marriage.
Want proof? Read the anouncements in the media about people getting engaged. Or how people who
strive to get laws passed for 'same sex marriages'...No, marriage is not only alive and well but
will be around long after YOU are worm food. |
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Not if you really are in love with that person. |
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So what do you do instead of not getting married?? Just stay single? |
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What do you suggest? Make everyone stay single? I agree that not everybody HAS to marry, but it
still has an important part in keeping humanity alive. |
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It is not for everyone. |
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:-(
I wanna be married to a certain man. I disagree with this debate, because it's just wrong, and bad
for Society! |
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From your point of view I totally agree.
From my point of view I totally disagree.
I hope that your point of view of marriage remains a minority point of view. |
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Marriage is the world's attempt at making something intangible, tangible. |
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Our society started off by a man and a woman getting married, and see how our great countries are.
If people had started to think about not getting married centuries ago, you or i would not be here
now |
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It is the only way forward we know what doesn't work. |
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Marriage represents Stability for the economy and reduction in Health Problems. |
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Mate HELL NO why would you say that marriage is a bond between two people a bond to say the will
share they're lives and live together forever wanna be 50 and still saying 'i live with my
girlfriend' |
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Outdated-maybe
outmoded-maybe
impractical-no.
How can it be considered impractical its basically a guarantee that these two people who live
together will help each other survive. Its only impractical when it fails and one side takes more
then another. |
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Infidelity is such a betrayal. I think it is because people choose the wrong partner.
If two people really believed they want to stay together through thick and thin, and come what my,
they will. And some do. What on this earth would ever come between them? Only death.
It's no good setting up with someone whether married or not, to see how things might pan out.
This isn't a 50 50 in a Hamburger Franchise.
The biggest problem for marriage is the way the law has weekend the contract. Over the years.
All anyone has to say, it would seam is, "He doesn't talk to me nicely", or "she's a gossip." (had
to change a word).All the rest of the proceedings are to deal with who gets what. And what do we do
with the kids.
If there wasn't so much money in it for 'Law' marriages would last decades not months.
It is a disgrace for people to enter into any binding contract only to find, a couple of years down
the road they made a mistake.
People should try becoming friends first then fall in love and then get married. Sounds to simple I
know, but instead of a dream it becomes a nightmare.
Co habiting won't make breaking up less of a nightmare, but financially, one of the two is sure to
be better off. Which in obviously makes it much more painful for at least one if there are no
children. |
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Aids does not happen in couples that stay together. The spread of sexual diseases would disappear
by elimination of sex outside of marriage. And we just looking at the physical aspects.
And we are not addressing children. Children need the stability of both mom and a dad
socially, fiscally, emotionally, physically, and mentally. They need that umbrella of marriage to
grow into well-grounded adults. |
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For the record: I do believe in marriage as a concept, and also it does work for some people. But
not for all.
If marriage was infallible, why would the divorce rate be over 50%....?
Obviously, marriage is broken.....but perhaps it could be fixed.
Some people go to counseling, and that helps them.
I think that if you have been divorced 4 times, then you should not be quick to rush into a legal
obligation with the next lover.
Get to know how someone ticks.
Look deep before you leap.
Have your ducks in a nice straight line first. ;-)
If you are unsure of someone before the ceremony? It was your gut instinct saying, "NO!!!!!!". And
that marriage will never work out. And you knew it all along........
My opinions and feelings on Marriage, might be because of my zodiac sign says I am a person who is
Traditional, and Loyal as all Scorpios are.....and we, are also a Possessive type.
We go after what we want. And we, take legal possession of that big Pisces ;-)
And nobody better fvck with what is our's: We are a jealous sign, loyal, ferocious, and deeply
committed to those we Love.
Nothing less than full-blown commitment of marriage will pay the proper Homage to our deep feelings
for that One Person.
All we, Scorpios can do in the face of such feel, is marry!!!
It is our Nature.
You cannot escape the nature of the beast.
But, all that said, still, I believe in the institution of marriage, and if by some miracle it
happens to me again, I will be really enjoying it. I like the possibility that eternal bliss may be
possible, even if improbable. ;-)
Do not marry out of desperation, need, or guilt, or obligation.
It just sets you up to fail at marriage and you will just be another divorce statistic. |
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How dare you say it's outdated! Have we fallen so low as to live a life lead by cattle. True love
waits, if a guy isn't serious and is just using you why on earth are you still with him. Think of
all the children without fathers longing for daddies. I personally want a man who loves me enough to
spend his whole life with me. A guy who loves me enough to support me and our future children. Such
a guy would be willing to stand before God, my parents, his parents, my friends and his friends and
Proudly say I DO! |
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The truth is, marriage means different things to different people. Even within the religious it
means different things. To a Catholic it is a holy sacrament, to a Jew it is a covenant before God,
to others it is a vow made before God and the community. For some it is a solemn commitment. To
the more secular it is a contractual arrangement by law. Are these things outdated? That depends
on its importance for the individual. On the other hand, there are those who think nothing of
divorce, oddly enough, those of a fundamentalist faith are very likely to have this outcome. For
many it provides structure and security.
For now it is still relevant in our society. |
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If you think that marriage is outdated, then don't do it. But for a lot of people, myself included,
the marriage commitment I made to my spouse is the only reason I am still married to him. I stood
before God and our guests as witnesses and committed my life to him. If I did not marry him, and it
was easy to just walk away, there have been times when I would have. But the fact that we were
married and committed to each other, made me want to stay and work it out. It is when people do not
take this seriously that there is no point to marriage. I can truly say, that their are wonderful
parts of our relationship that I would not have made it to if we were not married. |
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