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Marriage Is An Outdated, Outmoded And Impractical Idea
I think that marriage is no longer necessary in contemporary Western society.
 Spartan76  31 Dec 2007 16:07
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Marriage is a sacred vow of love and trust, despite any person's location or religious background. Some people are not necessarily ready for that type of commitment, but many are.
 
 Maggie1  07 May 2009 00:58
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I agree.
I think that in today's world and society, it is just to make people feel safer in their relationships.
Because in marriage it is harder to get out of them
 
 martha  12 Feb 2009 19:42
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Depending, yes
 
 sub619  21 Jan 2009 21:46
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It depends on their view of love.
 
 joey00769  17 Jan 2009 14:49
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Marriage is simply a financial pension for women,& legalized rape for men.
 
 koolmodee  24 Dec 2008 00:48
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 You old romantic you. Oh how I wish I could share you bleak outlook of the world, what fun you must have.
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I don't think that is right in anyway for a government to litigate how I feel about another person.
The reasons people go into marriage are personal ones, so why should it be law?
How is my relationship to another (or others) of any less depth and meaning than another couple just because they have a piece of paper backing them up?
Furthermore, there are other rules surrounding marriage that are based on morality and religion, such as only being able to marry one person or not marrying ones step-sibling.
 
 Shinsetsu  30 Sep 2008 17:55
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Marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper to show your love for your partner. I don't believe it is an important factor in a relationship. A wedding, on average, costs a lot of money. I believe a couple in love should use that amount of money to invest in a house, a car, a life together. If two people love each other, marriage shouldn't have to exist to them. They know their love without standing in front of a group of people to confess it publicly.
 
 sarrah  20 Sep 2008 23:14
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 a wedding? no. that IS stupid.
and I am against a wedding. that is like porn: certain things are not meant for the eyes of others: the wedding ceremony is the two in bed at home alone. too special, too private, too Sacred for viewing.

a marriage certificate?

God! :-(

If you are so in love with that person? nothing less will do.
if you really want them so bad you feel you are dying - you will mount them and take legal possession. you will WANT TO marry them!!!
Anything else would seem a betrayal of the Love! Vulgar, and demeaning and......Empty!!! like you were sh*t on !!! If you VALUE that One Dear One?.....you will Burst with Pride to make them Your's.
Marriage, in that case, is the only thing you will want to do. is Right, is acknowledgement of the Value, worth of your Love.
You will want it more than anything you ever wanted in your whole life! except to be the Mother of your child, ok, there is that;-) too...but still, you get my drift here............
by  Scorpion
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People today are not as religious as they were in the early 1900's and i believe most people don't find it as necessary any more i know someone that has been in a relationship for 40 yrs had two kids and didn't get married. People may also not get married because then they know they are always together and if they ceat on one another they are more likely to stay together when they're married because they had a whole ceremont and everything
 
 mollyjmojo  31 Aug 2008 10:36
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 There still are alot of people throught the world who believe in marriage.
by  bre
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People today just get married to later break up.
People today don't take relationships as serious as they should. Cheating has become common, specially when your married.
Whats the point in marriage.???
 
 lq04  15 Jul 2008 10:29
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 I so agree with you!! and the marriage vows should also be changed or deleted as well.
by  Lori
 18 Sep 2008 17:01
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As long as a safeguard is in place for ensuring children are not abandoned then I agree with you completely.

They could replace marriage with a limited term contractual agreement, including clauses pre-determining future separation of wealth and assets, future responsibilities to offspring, etc., and then just turn people loose.
 
 Grenache  09 Jul 2008 20:38
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Marriage might not be outdated but you can surely see how it has changed through out the years...you see more and more divorces every day..i personally do not believe in marriage because who needs a piece of paper and a ring on their finger to show love? Marriage might be lovely to some people...sharing one heart and all that but honestly you can do everything without getting married..and that's what you see more and more people doing
 
 zero1again  27 Mar 2008 22:41
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Honestly, can you name two couples of your acquaintance whose marriages you whole-heartedly admire? I thought not.
Marriage has become an absolute joke in our society. It used to be that people (especially women) married for “security.” But what kind of security is there when the average U.S. First marriage lasts just four years?
So many couples rushed into marriage out of physical attraction and now hate each other but see no financial or emotional way out. So they slog along, often to the psychological detriment of their children.
Marriage is an extremely serious legal contract, which head-over-heels-in-love couples fail to comprehend. A divorce can have far-reaching financial consequences, especially if you have assumed each other’s debts or real-estate holdings.
No, the only reason for a couple to marry is if they intend to have children. Even then, it is no guarantee you will stay together -- or be happy.
 
 chispa  08 Mar 2008 19:55
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 Besides enjoying my own marriage, I have about a dozen close friends with happy, healthy marriages
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There seems to be three things at work here: Marriage, love, and devotion.
All of these are good things. Love is great nothing beats it. If you love someone you should marry them, cuz that proves your love. Then being married devotion will simply be there your love of course being the backbone of your marriage and devotion simply making sense.
Oh wait... I'm on the FOR marriage is bad side... Lemme spit some truth for ya...
I cannot IMAGINE what kind of glass house someone must live in to be able to throw stones at someone who doesn't believe in marriage and not have their face cut up left and right from the cieling and walls falling down around them.
If someone is in a marriage and are not in love they just... Stay married? End of argument? Are there really people in the world who forbid themselves the rationale that maybe they married the wrong person?
How miserable of a life must you be willing to live to enter into a bond with someone without the background safety net, and frankly life experience, to at least fear this venture may be disappointing.
The problem isn't marriage persay, it's rushing into marriage. However, couple remaining chaste with familiar approval and it can be a very powerful urge, need, and frankly temptation to get married. That doesn't mean you're a bad person. It doesn't mean anything. Much like marriage doesn't mean anything.

Now... Devotion... Devotion and love are quite intertwined. If you escape your devotion to someone you love that person, if equally devoted, absolutely knows, but will never suspect. Hard to imagine, hard to articulate, absolutely true. The loss of self when the person you love loses that love upon being told you have cheated on them is so mockingly painful... Truly, you have cheated yourself from a life that could have been...
Still, marriage is no rubber stamp for happiness. Then again, love isn't either. Marriage just seems unnecessary to me. It seems superfluous and entirely unromantic. Can't you designate an anniversary date as your special day. Or celebrate your love everyday? What is significant about a marriage?
Also i realize much on here supporting marriage has included the religious and social impacts of marriage. You people seem to be endorsing marrying the right person more than addressing the context that marriage tends to be encountered in modern day places like Earth and other non-dreamworld islands off the coast of fantasy.
 
 characters  26 Feb 2008 07:19
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Marriage is impractical but so is love and i wouldn't give that up
 
 muin13  22 Feb 2008 00:14
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Marriage, as we all know, is a social procedure with the help of which two separate individuals tie the knot with each other and spend the rest of their lives together. Since ancient times there were many customs regarding marriage but as and when time passed by everything changed and marriage got classified into two categories, namely Love Marriage and Arranged Marriage. Though in both the cases the names describe their individuality but nowadays there has been a lot of change in the social scenario of marriage. No longer marriage is given the previous priority as the world is changing in a fast pace and people are also getting habituated with this fast changing lifestyle. Thus no one is having enough time to get into such a pre-decided notion. Marriage nowadays is an outdated and an impractical idea which people are not being interested in.
 
 sudipa  10 Feb 2008 12:52
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The idea that marriage leads to happiness and love is a myth. It used to be the only way to survive in a difficult world. The only reason the divorce rate keeps going up is because people are more free to get out of bad situations. People base their belief in 'a happy marriage' on the image that couples want to people to see.
 
 abcbaker  04 Feb 2008 20:14
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I have been saying this for along time. People in today's world have changed the concept of marriage, and I'm not referring to gay or straight. Marriage used to be a sanction, a unity, a blessing. When you vowed, you vowed for life. With today's society, people can't even vow to themselves any more, more less to another person. People today are so stuck on themselves, they have become greedier, and most haven't been raised with values and morals that were taught in the last generation.

I also think that marriage is over rated because it changes everything. If you think back to people you've known... Many many of them are more successful in their relationship if they only 'date' or 'live together'. It appears to me that a marriage certificate defines you as a piece of property.
 
 seoems369  29 Jan 2008 17:35
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I tend to agree that marriage is outdated in today's modern society. I don't think that we should have yearly options but a secure legal framework for unmarried couples to protect them any any children they might have.
In the case of unmarried fathers they have few rights if their name doesn't appear on their child's birth certificate. Some unmarried mothers may omit to register children in both parents names.
Unmarried couples( and married ones too) need to make wills and legally protect their families.
Woman have so many choices now and marriage doesn't have to be one of them. A high proportion of women are deciding against marriage and motherhood and this must be their choice and respected.

Some relationships outside marriage can last for a lifetime.. It's not essential to marry and religious pressures are not taken as seriously as they were in the past.
I do think that married and non- married couples should all respect and care for each other equally in whatever marital or non- marital situation they choose. Not being married shouldn't make separation easier within a committed relationship.
 
 Sophie1  09 Jan 2008 13:19
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There is a barely a couple that make it through marriage happily. The problem is that it is a useless and functionless societal requirement. Marriage is a set of rules by which we have had to live our lives with another person of the opposite sex and I can't see the value of it.

Marriage is very expensive, it gives the couple nothing more than a legally binding agreement and how was love ever about legally binding two people together, I can't think of a more horrific thing to do to a couple but to lash them together using the law as the bind.

In many relationships, the fuss around the binding together of two people places immense strain on the couple. In traditional marriages, it allows the couple to live together and to have sexual intercourse to have children together. But neither of these things require marriage, they are just more socially accepted if they are done within the ancient framework of marriage but if you are not a religious person, who cares about marriage, I can't think of any positive benefits to marriage beyond the simplest legal issues of ownership of joint possessions.

Perhaps marriages should last for five years and then have an option to renew them if required. Surely that would allow unhappy people to dissolve their nonsense relationships easily enough. Or perhaps they could have L' plate marriages, only valid for a year.

I don't believe marriage needs to be part of a modern society, I think people would be much happier being freer and less restrained by social convention.
 
 Spartan76  31 Dec 2007 16:18
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Marriage is not like a dairy product with an expiration date; marriage is like any institution in that it is as strong as those that believe in it and in Western society-or the world for that matter, millions upon millions still believe in marriage.
Want proof? Read the anouncements in the media about people getting engaged. Or how people who strive to get laws passed for 'same sex marriages'...No, marriage is not only alive and well but will be around long after YOU are worm food.
 
 iceisice  03 Mar 2010 05:29
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Not if you really are in love with that person.
 
 debategal  17 Dec 2009 03:23
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So what do you do instead of not getting married?? Just stay single?
 
 Chungee100  12 Jan 2009 02:05
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 Wouldn't you?
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I wanted for sorry
 
 LiME  01 Jan 2009 15:56
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What do you suggest? Make everyone stay single? I agree that not everybody HAS to marry, but it still has an important part in keeping humanity alive.
 
 Spartan33  22 Nov 2008 20:44
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It is not for everyone.
 
 sylverwyld  23 Oct 2008 17:29
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:-(

I wanna be married to a certain man. I disagree with this debate, because it's just wrong, and bad for Society!
 
 Nevermore  20 Oct 2008 01:33
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From your point of view I totally agree.

From my point of view I totally disagree.

I hope that your point of view of marriage remains a minority point of view.
 
 athling  30 Sep 2008 18:07
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I agree that today couples who are not yet married are more accepted than they were back in the old days, but I still think marriage is a lovely idea. True, it doesn't really 'prove' anything, but I think most couples warm to the idea of it and me and my fiancee are one of them. :)
 
 nchx  27 Sep 2008 20:20
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Marriage is the world's attempt at making something intangible, tangible.
 
 Specter87  20 Sep 2008 23:36
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 I see what you are saying, Specter87......;-)

In like manner as the world's attempt at making God tangible by the writing of the Holy Scriptures.....?

Huh ? ;-)

Same Analogy.
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Our society started off by a man and a woman getting married, and see how our great countries are. If people had started to think about not getting married centuries ago, you or i would not be here now
 
 juanster93  20 Sep 2008 07:30
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 How did you come to that conclusion? Is it a religious beief? I'm just curious.
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It is the only way forward we know what doesn't work.
 
 keepmindok  02 Sep 2008 10:29
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Marriage represents Stability for the economy and reduction in Health Problems.
 
 Calvin  18 Aug 2008 17:22
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Mate HELL NO why would you say that marriage is a bond between two people a bond to say the will share they're lives and live together forever wanna be 50 and still saying 'i live with my girlfriend'
 
 YoungRuva  06 Aug 2008 05:49
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 yes, but it doesn't always work that way does it. Divorce is far more popular now, and this would not be the case if people properly test drived by marriage by cohabiting. Maybe if more people did this test drive, then divorce would hold more significance aswell as marriage.
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Outdated-maybe
outmoded-maybe
impractical-no.
How can it be considered impractical its basically a guarantee that these two people who live together will help each other survive. Its only impractical when it fails and one side takes more then another.
 
 Smito  02 Aug 2008 14:43
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Infidelity is such a betrayal. I think it is because people choose the wrong partner.
If two people really believed they want to stay together through thick and thin, and come what my, they will. And some do. What on this earth would ever come between them? Only death.
It's no good setting up with someone whether married or not, to see how things might pan out.
This isn't a 50 50 in a Hamburger Franchise.
The biggest problem for marriage is the way the law has weekend the contract. Over the years.
All anyone has to say, it would seam is, "He doesn't talk to me nicely", or "she's a gossip." (had to change a word).All the rest of the proceedings are to deal with who gets what. And what do we do with the kids.
If there wasn't so much money in it for 'Law' marriages would last decades not months.
It is a disgrace for people to enter into any binding contract only to find, a couple of years down the road they made a mistake.
People should try becoming friends first then fall in love and then get married. Sounds to simple I know, but instead of a dream it becomes a nightmare.
Co habiting won't make breaking up less of a nightmare, but financially, one of the two is sure to be better off. Which in obviously makes it much more painful for at least one if there are no children.
 
 hb_26  27 Jul 2008 23:16
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Aids does not happen in couples that stay together. The spread of sexual diseases would disappear by elimination of sex outside of marriage. And we just looking at the physical aspects.
And we are not addressing children. Children need the stability of both mom and a dad socially, fiscally, emotionally, physically, and mentally. They need that umbrella of marriage to grow into well-grounded adults.
 
 blankman  18 Jul 2008 02:00
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For the record: I do believe in marriage as a concept, and also it does work for some people. But not for all.
If marriage was infallible, why would the divorce rate be over 50%....?
Obviously, marriage is broken.....but perhaps it could be fixed.
Some people go to counseling, and that helps them.

I think that if you have been divorced 4 times, then you should not be quick to rush into a legal obligation with the next lover.
Get to know how someone ticks.
Look deep before you leap.
Have your ducks in a nice straight line first. ;-)

If you are unsure of someone before the ceremony? It was your gut instinct saying, "NO!!!!!!". And that marriage will never work out. And you knew it all along........

My opinions and feelings on Marriage, might be because of my zodiac sign says I am a person who is Traditional, and Loyal as all Scorpios are.....and we, are also a Possessive type.
We go after what we want. And we, take legal possession of that big Pisces ;-)
And nobody better fvck with what is our's: We are a jealous sign, loyal, ferocious, and deeply committed to those we Love.
Nothing less than full-blown commitment of marriage will pay the proper Homage to our deep feelings for that One Person.
All we, Scorpios can do in the face of such feel, is marry!!!
It is our Nature.

You cannot escape the nature of the beast.

But, all that said, still, I believe in the institution of marriage, and if by some miracle it happens to me again, I will be really enjoying it. I like the possibility that eternal bliss may be possible, even if improbable. ;-)

Do not marry out of desperation, need, or guilt, or obligation.
It just sets you up to fail at marriage and you will just be another divorce statistic.
 
 Scorpion  14 Jul 2008 19:10
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1 - Marriage is not outdated, it works perfectly well for millions of couples in the 21st century.

2 - Marriage is not outmoded, its as fashionable as ever, moreso now with bridezillas and celebrity theme weddings...

3 - Marriage is very practical, it doubles your household income, makes childraising easier, and ensures that you have someone to take care of you for the rest of your life.

It's only a bad thing if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons.
 
 JRL  13 Jun 2008 23:27
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How dare you say it's outdated! Have we fallen so low as to live a life lead by cattle. True love waits, if a guy isn't serious and is just using you why on earth are you still with him. Think of all the children without fathers longing for daddies. I personally want a man who loves me enough to spend his whole life with me. A guy who loves me enough to support me and our future children. Such a guy would be willing to stand before God, my parents, his parents, my friends and his friends and Proudly say I DO!
 
 Vlad  25 May 2008 00:03
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 I'm inspired.
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The truth is, marriage means different things to different people. Even within the religious it means different things. To a Catholic it is a holy sacrament, to a Jew it is a covenant before God, to others it is a vow made before God and the community. For some it is a solemn commitment. To the more secular it is a contractual arrangement by law. Are these things outdated? That depends on its importance for the individual. On the other hand, there are those who think nothing of divorce, oddly enough, those of a fundamentalist faith are very likely to have this outcome. For many it provides structure and security.
For now it is still relevant in our society.
 
 innomen  12 May 2008 22:31
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If you think that marriage is outdated, then don't do it. But for a lot of people, myself included, the marriage commitment I made to my spouse is the only reason I am still married to him. I stood before God and our guests as witnesses and committed my life to him. If I did not marry him, and it was easy to just walk away, there have been times when I would have. But the fact that we were married and committed to each other, made me want to stay and work it out. It is when people do not take this seriously that there is no point to marriage. I can truly say, that their are wonderful parts of our relationship that I would not have made it to if we were not married.
 
 krissara  12 May 2008 22:19
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Marriage's definition has definitely changed throughout the years. Marriage is the joining of two people under God. It is a commitment to love and honor that person in a church surrounded by loved ones. It is not a fly by night decision, like people think it is nowadays. It is something people should take a lot more seriously. We are teaching future generations that divorce is acceptable for any reason and it is not. It states in the Bible that their are only 3 reasons divorce is acceptable and I think we need to stick to that. If you marry and do not think beforehand, you should have to deal with it.
 
 demo  06 Apr 2008 19:59
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The only reason you want this is so you can bang whoever you want without getting married
 
 jenksXgurl  05 Apr 2008 18:55
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I agree with those that say marriage is what you make it. I also feel that there is not a problem with marriage so much as there seems to be a problem with people's perceptions.

I have moral convictions on this, but leaving that out of this for a moment, shouldn't people be more serious about the consideration of getting married? People seem to take more time to check out houses before they buy them or finding out about different stocks or whether or not to merge in their business. When it comes to deciding who they would spend their life with, they just jump in. Why is that? It would seem that you would want to know more about their character, how they treat others, how they relate to children, how they honor or respect you when others are around, how they handle their finances, and so much more before you would even seriously entertain spending the rest of your life with them. What i see is people thinking something like, "looks good, fun times, yeah let's do it". Not really considering that it is supposed to be FOREVER. Then when the least little thing happens that is unpleasant, it is "i didn't sign up for this, and i don't have to take it. I am outta here". That is why so many fail, because people don't consider it seriously before they do it, and are not committed to it when they do.

I would never try to tell someone they should do it if they don't think it is for them, but i believe it is a good thing. If your intentions are pure and you are mature enough to understand how beautiful it could actually be if you work together, then it could definitely work. It is all up to the parties involved.
 
 DasRight  18 Mar 2008 22:41
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That's not true it's a nice and stable thing to be married.
 
 nelson12  13 Mar 2008 23:37
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It shows someone's commitment to someone. It should never be taken away
 
 melisiwa  11 Mar 2008 23:14
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 You can have a commitment to someone without being married...
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I am totally against it!!! When you truly love someone you wouldn't want them to treat you like 'just another girlfriend/boyfriend'. Marriage is important just the way it is, both legally and religiously. With marriage respecting the religious values in the eyes of God it creates a bond, it's a commitment, a promise before God to love that one person no matter what happens, never lusting after another, never wanting to leave that person, you and the other become one spirit, you think about their needs before yours, it's not about money or material things, it's not about walking out on them the first chance you get, it's about making it work. Why would someone think it a bad thing to not be able to sleep around with many partners? That's the dumbest thing I've heard in a long time, sleeping around with many partners when you're married even when you're in a relationship means that you don't have any respect for your spouse or partner, it's the main reason why so many people are dying from diseases, having kids outside of marriage, murder being committed because of persons being caught committing adultery/cheating, reasons for suicide when the victim just can't take it any longer, kids hating their parents or themselves because their parents are separated and seeing other people or are never around, this causes a lot of hurt and problems. This is what God was trying to prevent but because of us being hard-headed we now suffer all the consequences in modern society. The legal implications of marriage are also very important, it draws a line between those who intend to be bound by their relationship. There are a lot of people out there who get into relationships giving it all they have, cohabiting and doing everything together but when it ends, it is discovered that one of the parties never intended to be bound by anything while the other is trying to get everything they can get through the legal system, it is unfair to another person to give all they have and then walk away with nothing, so the law of marriage shows that the couple intended to share, it shows that they would have both contributed and even if they didn't the law seeks to make the relationship end fairly. However if we obey the religious rules to marriage we would never need the legal assistance.
 
 neekz  11 Mar 2008 11:48
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...so how are children going to be raised? By the government? Look at the stats for crime and substance abuse for kids raised in single parent families vs families that have both. What you find should shock you if you really believe marriage to be so "outdated" marriage is ideally for the sake of the children. Anyone who enters marriage selfishly with only their own interests in mind doesn't deserve the privileges and responsibility of getting married
 
 Seth  11 Mar 2008 05:29
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I used to think that until I got married, marriage is what you make it. I don't think you have to get married in a church so to speak but if you want to be with someone there is no reason you can't do it through a legal document. Look at it as a business arrangement for love.
 
 openurmind  03 Mar 2008 19:47
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Marriage is wonderful sacred tradition that should be kept alive through the rest of our years, our children's years and through our great grand children's years and so on. It isn't just a license, it is a bond that two people are voicing in the church of God and united together by God. It is something so special and people should definitely cherish their vows and remember the words to those vows. For good and bad, for richer and poorer, etc. Many people do not take these vows seriously, but what they are failing to realize is that this promise was made before God and in the Bible it states there are very few reasons that there is allowed a separation between a man and a woman. They are audultery, Either the man or woman is not a believer. It is a question of "are you a true christian or not" and "how much do you believe in God and his power"?
 
 suzy  23 Feb 2008 05:30
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 doesn't that marry you to god more than the person? short of the other person not being allowed to have sex with other people? seems like a mistake thus miserable life has high potential.
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You who are against it, make me laugh!
 
 tesaba  16 Feb 2008 16:09
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 Those who are against marriage? You are on the against camp that it is not an outdated thing so I think you mean those against marriage. If so, I don't think it is good to laugh at them for being wrong.
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Whether people are expected to marry or not, people will lust, fornicate, commit adultery, etc. If one loves his wife or if one loves her husband (man + woman is how it's meant to be by design) that person would not forsake them by lusting after another. What a cheap and low kind of "love" is it when someone marries someone and yet gives to strangers what they should keep for their own wife or husband? You know what I'm saying? Most Christians and the world are indistinguishable as the divorce rate is about 50% for both in the U.S., I think it was. Wow. That shows how much we love our spouse. We love them so much we give our bodies to another person who can give us pleasure. Not all divorces involve sexual problems, of course. Money is a big reason. If we really love someone, wouldn't we prefer to die of starvation with them than to separate with money? The problem is that our love is not sacrificial love. I care more about myself, is what it is about. Self over all. That is the problem. If I live longer and if I marry, I want to say "I love you" and never abandon my wife.
And why do most Christians (of which I was one) attack Homosexuality and do not speak against divorce? I think it is because about 50 percent of the church members may be offended, among them; church leaders. The end of the age is coming and the very proposal to get rid of marriage which hinders "free love" supports the Bible's claim about our gradually worsening depravity and the future which is coming and is here already. I want to ask those who propose getting rid of marriage like that: Are you for the "free love" of polygamy, incest, bestiality, and homosexuality? I consider it freed lust. If you are for the case, you are actually pushing for the day when our children are taught that it is okay if they have three dads, or if their uncle is a monkey, or if they are sexually attracted to the dead. It seems far-fetched but it can happen in this world of "everything is relative" and "free love."
 
 Stranger  15 Feb 2008 19:17
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Marriage is in some extent outdated, but it does not mean that aren't people out there that find true love and individuals that they are willing to spend the rest of their lives with no matter what. People treat it as an obligation and that is not what it is at all. Marriage is a privilege, and if people stopped marrying because of desperation, materialistic needs, financial stability, or sex, then it wouldn't be outdated. There are still old fashioned people out there that fall in love and stay in love. There for it is needed.
 
 alex34  04 Feb 2008 02:04
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Marriage is probably more needed today than it ever has been for secular purposes. It ensures all kinds of stability, fiscal, social and child-rearing, provides tax relief to those who are willing to legally become a single entity and provides a lot of free income that helps the economy.

Now if only we could get rid of the silly religious nonsense that tends to go along with marriage.
 
 Cephus  03 Feb 2008 00:47
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 That silly religious nonsense that comes along with marriage is where it all started, marriage was created by God and the value and importance of it started in the bible, so you getting married for money and stability etc are the same ones who will forever be unhappy because your spouses are out there having affairs and treating you like dirt. Marriage is meant to be sacred, sacrificial, willing to be there for the other person no matter what the circumstances are, willing to suffer together, it's not supposed to be about what you can get from that person. The significance of marriage is that it distinguishes between the commitment, love and devotion that one has for another, desiring to be together forever rather than not knowing if a person wants to be with you always, treating you just like any other. A marriage is not a marriage without the religious practices because God created one marriage and one marriage only. Marriage in the eyes of God was meant for us to have one spouse our entire lives, it would have saved us a lot of heartache and regrets if we did it God's way. We wonder why the world is filled with so much pain and hatred? Because we always want to do things to benefit our selfish wants and needs!
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