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I agree because love is not about age and everyone doesnt get a chance to feel what its like. But
when you love someone you know and you can not tell that person how they feel for someone else. And
also most people marry their high school bfs or gfs so yes i agree. |
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True, but it does mean your less likely to understand it. As a teen you are changing. As you change
your idea of love changes. Ifso-facto badda-bing |
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Being a "teen" myself, I don't think we should generalise because love means so many different
things to so many different people. I personally think people don't know a lot of things about
themselves (like how much potential they have etc. ) but I think that everyone knows how they feel. |
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I agree, you know how you feel and only time will tell how you will feel about eachother in the
future. I would not be one to mock the feelings of teens. If for some reason the relationship ends
badly then the adults in your life should be aware that you will have deep feeings about that as
well.
I don't mock how my children feel. I listen to what they are saying and help them work through
things if they need to. Parents who under estimate the depth of feeling teens could be making a
serious mistake. Some teen relationships to mature into loving adult relationships and friend
ships. Most don't. Teens need adults that can be there no matter the out come.
Teens may want to pay attention to parents concerns though. If a parent has had experience in their
life with certain personality and behavior traits they are noticing in the friends or love intrest
of the teen, they may be able to point things out that could be benificial. The least the teen can
do is listen and say " Thanks for sharing that with me. You bring up some good points and I will
keep that in mind." instead of taking the " Adults don't always know everything" attitude. |
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Love knows no age limits, certainly some teens do experience true love, plus there are examples of
teen love affairs which go on to last a lifetime.
I think what most adults are trying to convey, however, is NOT that the teen doesn't know love, it's
that they don't know how to put their love into perspective (how long will it last, how many loves
may follow this one, the implications of sex, the responsibilities of providing for yourself and
your lover, etc). I mean teens may act like their life is coming to an end if they can't spend
every waking moment with their teen love yet we all know it won't come to an end and in fact most
likely in a month they'll be broken up and either depressed or swooning over the next love. That's
the lack of perspective I'm talking about. |
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Teens are the first to know what love is, it's when you grow up and old, and funk and miserable
because others would not yeild to your ego or kiss your hind pot on a more consistent basis, is when
you try to tant love with your over baring opinonated cynical ways.
Rock on young love! |
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I agree. Being a teen, I know that SOME teens don't know what love is (including possibly me) but to
say that they all don't is an unfair generalization. |
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I'm 16 and in a stable, loving relationship. We know what we want together and we're very strong
together. It isn't about age so much as personal maturity. It depends on the person. Most adults are
attempting to protect you, but going about it in the wrong way. |
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Although I feel that teenagers are just getting into the swing of things, love-life wise and all
that, a teenager can know what love is.
Despite saying that, teenage relationships mostly don't last long. But this is because teenagers
sometimes mistake a 'crush' for 'love'. Hormones can also make things heated between boyfriend and
girlfriend.
What supports adults' arguments most is that they think back to their teen life, and where they've
gone wrong (if they have) and try to stop you doing the same. However, adults need to know when to
let go, and that is what often causes the arguments between parent and child (as I'm sure you
know:-)
Research shows that teenage love is often the purest love - even though it does not last very long.
Older people tend to 'want more' out of love. Life, when I say to my mum, 'I'm going to marry
someone I really love when I'm older', she just laughs and says, 'if their rich'. |
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Just because you are truly experiencing an emotion does not mean you have the tools to discern and
place emotions within a logical context. The point is child or adult, it is easy to make big
mistakes in the area of love and consequences can be severe. One of the nice things about being
young is even though patience is hard the truth is you have all the time in the world so there is no
reason not to be slow and cautious while you figure out the rules to a brand new game. |
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Just learn from the experience so that when you're an adult, you won't tell teenagers "it's puppy
love."
(Although, I'm sure those adults were teenagers once, so they may know what they're talking about) |
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I agree with citycowboy that parents may be going about expressing their concerns in the wrong way,
but as I look back to my parents telling me that I had to grow and experience life before I could be
committed to a relationship that would last, I realize they were right. I do think that teens are
capable of truly loving their boyfriend or girlfriend, but many do grow and mature as they get older
and that changes the relationship. Most of the time, these changes lead to one or the other ending
the relationship. Even in our friendships, we tend to change and some friends grow apart over the
years. There are exceptions. Some relationships do last and lead to marriage and some friendships
are solid and last a lifetime, but parents know that you can be hurt if you place all of your faith
in that scenario. They should not dismiss your feelings, but warning you of the possible outcome
does help you understand that you are not at fault if a relationship does not work out. |
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I don't think people should tell you if your feelings are real or not. I know a couple that have
been together since high school. Keep in mind that is rare. People don't really know who they are
until they experience life and I don't think you can really have that much experience as a teen.
Chances are you and your boyfriend will grow in different directions and move on but that does not
make the feelings you have now less legitimate. I think the adults are trying to protect you. They
may not be going about it the right way but I think their intentions are good. |
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Normally, I would totally agree with this. I am a teen myself, and I know how it feels to have
adults tell you that you don't understand love. However, I've come to believe that they do have a
point.
Most teens confuse love with lust, which are two totally different things. Hormones in our brains
and body make things even more mixed up and confusing.
However, I'm not saying that true love does not occur for teens, because I'm sure it does. I just
think that it is rare for a teen to have the mental maturity. Most people don't even understand what
love really, honestly is. They just don't understand the complexity of it, how unselfish and giving
love really is.
So as a generalization, I'd say that most teens do not properly understand true love. They just
think they do. |
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Mos teen "relationships" are immature ones, they only last 2 weeks. |
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07 Jun 2009 20:05
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