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It Is Important Not To Alter Yourself For A Man
1.breast implantation, 2.liposuction, 3.pretending you like football or golf just because he likes these, 4.faking an orgasm to coddle/reward his lack of sexual prowess, 5.going to a church with him that is not of your own opinion, just to make peace, 6.appeasement to end arguments........... Women, HAVE VALUE separate from a man. Women, deserve someone who loves them for who they are. If a guy doesn't like what you've got - ladies - MOVE ON. Never alter yourself to accommodate anyone else. If they don't love you their opinion is BOSH ANYWAY .
 Scorpion  12 Aug 2008 21:20
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Christopher Marlowe aka William Shakespeare said, " to thine own self be true".

It IS true.

Never change for anyone, anyone at all, except for YOURSELF, and then, only if YOU want to.
 
 Rapunzel  15 Dec 2008 22:49
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Amen to that! Same definitely goes for the guys too.

Seriously, a spouse is supposed to ADD to your life, not take away what's already there. I mean, you can change for the better by being influenced by a spouse, but don't change for silly things - like the ones you mentioned.
 
 Starburst  15 Dec 2008 01:37
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I agree (and yeah I'm a man). It goes both ways actually... No one should have to become a different person in order to satisfy and stay with the person they're with.

Of course, there does need to be patience, compassion, cooperation to some degree. I'm not saying you can do and be anything you want no matter what. There is some mutual effort in making a relationship work. BUT if you become phony, betray your true nature, surrender your own will, then you're pretty foolish.
 
 Grenache  13 Aug 2008 01:12
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 yes, I agree with you, Grenache.
That seems reasonable to me too.
That is a good response you gave, in my opinion.
by  Scorpion
 28 Aug 2008 20:29
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Exactly,if you find someone that does not like who YOU ARE,then screw the bastard!You will be able to find someone WAY better anyways.All you need to do,is be yourself,and I guarantee that you will be able to find someone nice,loving and truly caring towards you.
 
 Dancer91  12 Aug 2008 23:43
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 thank you, Dancer91. I really appreciate your comment. Thank you.

(the problem is I DID "screw the bastard"....;-) ....as you said...........;-)
----->so now I feel bad about it all<----- OF COURSE. :-(
by  Scorpion
 18 Aug 2008 20:15
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Marriage is about compromise. There's a big difference between sitting through a football game and getting fake breasts. I don't see how you can even compare the two. Even so, I sit through sports games all the time, but I would prefer to do something else. Does this mean I have altered myself? I still don't like watching football, but I do it because I enjoy being around my friends.
 
 Specter87  12 Oct 2008 00:15
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I think its important for each gender to alter him/her self for the opposite if they love each other, because when you love some one you will love every thing belongs to him/her.
 
 child  14 Aug 2008 16:44
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Men should never alter them selves for a women. 1. Pretend to like watching chick flicks 2. Accompanying them while shopping 3. Letting them win arguments even though they are wrong and they make no sense 3. Letting them redecorate your house 4. Listing to them complain about friends and taking there side in battles against their friends 5. Wearing close that pleases them 6. Taking part in pointless conversations. Men have value separate from women. Men deserve someone who loves them for who they are, If a girl doesn't like what you got - boys - MOVE ON.Never alter yourself to accommodate anyone else. If they don't love you their opinion is BOSH ANYWAY .
 
 verum  13 Aug 2008 01:11
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 yes, verum.............;-)
it goes both ways.

Aretha Franklin was right: R_E_S_P_E_C_T......;-)
by  Scorpion
 13 Aug 2008 02:39
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