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I have to agree. I have been told that I am exceptionally good looking. All that has done has made
me more aware of my appearance. And how others see my body. I have to constantly deal with jealous
women. Getting stared at. Not to mention the fact that I have only a few female friends because the
only females that will get close to me, to take the chance to really get to know the real me are
very self-confident. Women. Apparently there are not too many self-assured women in my area. I also
have to deal with jealous women making up lies about me and spreading them all over town. Half the
time I feel like I am back in high school. That is why I keep to myself. It sucks!!!! Why can't
people be happy with what they have and who they are? |
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I find it a curse I can live with. Now cold sores, they are a curse, they just keep coming back. |
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It does seem like being too attractive too soon in life can make it harder to develop a certain
emotional depth. This can be especially problematic later in life when things start to fade. |
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Yes, it can be, where I live, BDA, I get beeped at as I wait for the bus to take me to work, the
first few times it ever happened I was a bit chuffed, but after a while now, it is getting a bit
irritating.
I also hate having the stigma that because I have blue eyes and blond hair, I am instantly seen as
stupid |
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I agree.
Because then you have to live up to it and its more of a problem when it comes sexually. |
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I agree that beauty is definitely a double-edged sword. In the instance of women, beautiful women
are often trusted more and given more opportunities in life. However, when a SMART, beautiful woman
tries to interact with men, as was said by 'chispa', they often are viewed as sex objects. They are
also often sexually harassed by male peers. I have experienced this and it is a terribly
depreciating thing, and also harms a girl's self-esteem. She sees HERSELF as a sex object. Beauty is
much overplayed. Advertising agencies capitalize on women's insecurities and glorify beauty. The
only problem is, any woman is beautiful, depending on the time and culture they're in. Women once
thought beautiful would be thought ugly once their looks were out of fashion. Beauty can indeed be a
curse, depending upon how it is used, viewed, and treated. |
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No one can deny that beauty is a double-edged sword.
Women in particular are not taken seriously if they have too much beauty. Other women resent them,
and men see them as sex objects.
Things “come too easily” for very attractive people, and they can get away with a lot that
people with normal looks cannot -- hence, the dumb-blonde stereotype. The accomplishments of
beautiful people are viewed suspiciously.
Statistically, worldwide, attractive people have more opportunities socially and professionally;
they get more promotions and make more money.
Folks who try to capitalize on their beauty by becoming a model, actor, or entertainer can, and do,
fail at finding happiness. There are just too many “pretty faces” (of both sexes) out there, so
the person often makes a very hard realization that he or she is not the special person he/she’s
been lead to believe he/she is all his/her life. |
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Although this is not a absolutely true for everyone, beauty can become an obsession especially for
those who once possessed it. Without trying to sound arrogant I consider myself quite attractive and
because of this people are always more willing to get to know me. This makes me feel that what I
have to offer as a person can never meet what people assume I must be like. |
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Oh, please. Its not beauty that is the curse, it is the person that buys into it. You are talking
about really small people who see it as the focus and not as an attribute. Get over it. Whaaa
Whaaa. |
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As a female human I have been the recipient of much unsolicited attention due to my personal
attributes on the exterior.
I do see however, that one is much more than the outside which others see.
I do know that my value is as the person on the inside, and have always taken such attentions in
stride.
I choose my friends according to their spiritual and intellectual and virtues and conduct, rather
than on superficial terms as Society at large does.
I do not take the women's fashion magazines too seriously, nor measure Human Worth by those Societal
Standards.
I have always thought for myself, and chosen my own standards for my life and my values and I do not
take looks as seriously as most seem to by the insecurities which so often present themselves within
the course of interpersonal relations and conversation.
I may chat briefly about nail-polish but it is not the goal of my existence to subordinate the
self-esteem of others to my superiority where such genetic advantages presents itself in this
physical realm of existence.
There is so much I feel that the female persuasion misses out on of import in their lives due to the
absorption of the external.
Men want a mind and a soul with which to relate on equal terms and value to seek out and to love and
commit to not some plastic fickle superficial clone and droid-like modern fashion-mag gal.
Men are not as impressed with those things as many unfortunate females think they are.
If you disbelieve this concept, simply ASK THEM what they really want and value and seek to obtain
with a woman in their life......
You may just be quite surprised, ladies. |
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I see your argument...but spend a day being hideous and then tell me beauty is a curse. |
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Beauty is not a curse, it's a good thing. |
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"Beauty" is not a curse, it is a deep seated biological mechanism for attracting partners. Why do
animals such as peacocks flaunt brightly coloured feathers? They don't appear to benefit the animal
as the fan of colour would attract predators and it provides no protection.
The reason they have brightly coloured feathers is because it is what potential mates are looking
for, beauty often implies health and with health comes reproduction.
When human females wear make-up, put on pretty clothes or shoes and go out to a nightclub/bar it's
often sub-consciously because they want to be noticed and appreciated by males. At a base level,
it's showing off her 'fertility'. It's one reason female breasts are mounted on the upper part of
the body rather then the abdomen like felines or canines, they are more noticeable and males use
them as an indicator of (sexual) fitness.
This is of course, if you buy into the biological deal. |
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Are the people who are voting in favour of this debate really saying that, if given a choice, if
they were somehow able to genetically reconstitute themselves and choose their own attributes, they
would really decide not to be physically attractive? I find that hard to believe.
The truth is that everything comes much easier to attractive people. Unsurprisingly, they find it
easier to get on with the opposite sex; they have their first sexual relations at an earlier age;
they become more confident; they find it easier to get jobs; they earn more. All in all, you would
have to be insane to opt for ugliness over beauty. |
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Don't be daft - all of the research states that "attractive"people are more successful overall. How
can it be a "curse" to have more money and more social prospects? Even babies respond more
positively to beautiful people so we have to teach them that beauty is only skin deep and that you
can't read a book by its cover. |
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You are completely wrong, a smart beautiful woman would play the game, and play it well to get
ahead..
I beautiful women will get far more opportunities than an ugly one, fact.. There is no double-edge
sword here, if a woman is clever she lets you know regardless, any beautiful woman that complains
about it is beautiful but stupid and kidding herself on |
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24 Mar 2008 19:06
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