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It's a combination of the two that you fall in love with. You fall in love with both. You don't fall
in love with one and then deal with the other. You love EVERYTHING about them not just a few things. |
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I wouldn't say Love is blind, but it sure is a hungry critter once you get a passionate fire lit in
your heart...;-) And, it definitely knows no boundaries. Guess the heart sees, and knows all that is
physically possible!! |
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Like, you can love anyone and not just a partner.
But a partner, especially, is someone you consider spending the rest of your life with, so it will
have to take into account some physical attributes.
Love is overlooking a few Mental and Physical "flaws" that lover may have, not many. It weighs out
on both. You don't want to spend the rest of your life stuck in a family that you come home to and
sigh. You don't want to be sitting at work hoping that something happens to your mate and you're
free, or sit their and fantasize about that mate cheating on you and you catching them just so you
have a legitimate excuse to leave them.
You don't want to be a woman who you think is crazy and might kill you in your sleep if you make her
mad (That's one of the many examples.), nor do you want someone you find completely physically
unattractive. Because when you make that commitment to love and cherish that person, or at least I
want to, you should want to actually mean and own up to it.
So it's not just being in love makes you completely blind because it doesn't, you can't lie to
yourself and say you didn't see this, or that. Because you did.
BASICALLY. Love does blind you to an extent, but it doesn't blind you from your own feelings. Be
true to yourself, too. |
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That certainly CAN be true and I'm very impressed by couples in which one member is able to overlook
physical flaws in their lover due to their love (whether it be handicaps or scars or illnesses or
weight or whatever). Love CAN overcome physical limitations....
However... Let's face it many many relationships come to an end for the far less noble reason that
they've either lost attraction to their mate or found someone else they're more attracted to. I'm
not defending that, I think it's often shameful when you see people give up on a love because aging
or stress or luck has taken a toll on them physically. But it happens. It happens a lot. And in
many cases some form of the love between them still exists, they may still wish each other well and
like each other's company or still want to function as a family, but the sex part of the
relationship has withered and died.
It's sad, and I wish I could have voted in the FOR column, I just don't think it's realistic to say
if you really love them you'll like whatever they've got physically.
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Oh, one other thing to add... You can have all the right factors in place to fall in love with
someone but still be missing the physical attraction and then it doesn't happen. Back when I was in
college there was a woman named Jennifer who personality wise was a great match to me, we hung out a
lot, I have no doubt both of us wondered if we were meant to be together, but for the darnest reason
I just had no physical attraction to her. I don't know why. I'm pretty sure I'd go so far as to
say I loved her, to this day I'd seek out her company, but the physical part just was never there.
And it wasn't because either of us had a physical problem, the physical spark just wasn't there. |
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02 Nov 2008 03:07
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