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My boy friend and i have been going out for over 9 months now. We are both 15. And i really need some advice. I want to break up with him. It's just not there. I have broken up with him softly, about 3 times. I don't know what to do, because he says he is so in love with me. And i don't want to break his heart. He wants to marry me. I don't know what to do!!! Help me!
 erinargues  30 Aug 2008 00:43
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It’s like pulling off a band aid. You need to firmly explain that however he may feel you are not in love with him and he needs to move on. It is really the kindest thing you can do. For you to get married to someone you aren’t ready to commit to would be a disservice to both of you.
 
 finsch  21 Oct 2008 07:01
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Far be it from me to agree with Verum, but.....I do.
15 is very young to be tied like that.
Experience the world while you still can!

God I wish I could be 15 again and not get tied to one guy!
"If only" is a sad, sad testimony when you are 41. Go, live. Be free!
You will be 41 tomorrow and not know why you never lived your life. Just say no to being tied so young....I, was barely 17, right after my 17th birthday when I got married. Ruined my entire life.

Go. Live.
 
 Scorpion  05 Sep 2008 08:37
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The man you want to marry would see your "its just not there" and want you to be happy.
 
 justsumguy  30 Aug 2008 03:53
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 I agree with justsumguy erinargues.
One of the best things one can do, is take a step back and see how the picture looks from there.
You might just have to be firm, and if he says," what"? tell him I'll wright it down for you.(and by the sounds of it ..make it double sided)...;-)
by  keepmindok
 31 Aug 2008 00:12
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Dude below me is right.

15 is a difficult time especially if you are having a heavy relationship. Just sit back take a deep breath and consider your own emotions.

People are complex and often don't understand their own emotions. You won't be breaking his heart just his somewhat extensive reliance upon you. You have to take control and do what's best.
 
 JakP  30 Aug 2008 02:02
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 Above me is right.
And verum is right too.
by  keepmindok
 31 Aug 2008 01:38
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The longer you wait, the more it will hurt, and the harder it will become.
 
 verum  30 Aug 2008 01:41
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You need to ask yourself, "What made me fall for him in the first place?" if you can't answer that then break up. But if you can answer that question with no doubt you need to sit down with him, tell him exactly how you feel and see what his response is, more times than not, he will understand and you two can take a break or become best of friends!
 
 Natorian  31 Aug 2008 01:20
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 at fifteen?
No. step back and look through both eyes.
If after a week or so you feel it needs another week then that is your choice. You shouldn't ever feel pressured or obliged.
by  keepmindok
 31 Aug 2008 01:34
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