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If It's Consensual And Between Human Adults, Then It Should Be Allowed
Things that fall under the category of consensual (not including legally mentally unable to consent, being suicidal counts as not being in your right mind) and between human adults(over age of consent): Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, Incest, Polygamy that is agreed upon by all involved parties, Three/Foursomes, most fetishes (not including voyeurism and exhibitionism, and a few others) etc. Things that aren't included: Pedophilia, Zoophilia (you can't prove consent), Necrophilia, etc. Please be civil and I'd prefer it if you provided something other than religious doctrine and personal beliefs as evidence. Morality counts as personal beliefs.
 FoxFire  15 May 2008 22:20
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It's the way I look at it.
 
 Snipex  21 Jul 2008 23:06
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I would have to agree as I simply don't see why not. There is the issue with incest and birth defects which needs to be observed but so long as the couple(or more) take this into account, I don't have a problem.
 
 Shizenk  20 Jun 2008 20:59
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Why not?

Oh, by morality is (mostly) a matter of opinion: Morals are sets of social standards that everyone's expected to follow (what's taboo, what's not really cared that much about, and what's encouraged). Different groups will obviously have different morals. What's moral for, let's say, a fundamentalist Christian, might not necessarily be moral for everyone else.

On the subject of the children of people in incestuous relationships having defects: Well, then pass laws regulating the options available to heterosexual related couples! Genetic screening can be done to determine if there's a risk of the child being born defective. They can just not have kids, adopt, or have the eggs fertilized in a lab and checked for genetic problems before being inserted into the mother's womb.

To Jakers and people who agree with him: Being suicidal counts as not being in your right mind. Also the wish 'to die the most painful death possible' would probably have you declared mentally unable to consent in a court of law.

On things like polygamy, if everyone involved has full knowledge of what's going on and consents, then what's the problem? If you have a personal issue with it, then by all means stick to monogamy for yourself, but just because you wouldn't do it doesn't mean other people shouldn't be allowed to.

There's so many arguments for homosexuality... Too late at night and my fingers are too tired to type them all out...
 
 FoxFire  16 May 2008 00:55
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 That would be another debate, the existence of objective morals, which i do believe in, and could debate nicely its existence.
by  innomen
 16 May 2008 01:10
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Whatever the practice, it's the *consent* that matters. Even with something like incest, if there is clear consent between the involved parties then I'd say it's OK. I'm ignoring the issue of any potential children from any act - because that affects lives/potential lives that are unable to consent (this, I assume, is why you've excluded exhibitionism and voyeurism from the "consenting adults" list).
 
 Helen  15 May 2008 22:46
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I second Innomen's comments.

I don't like the idea of incest either. I find it sick, I have been to the Isle of Wight and seen the consequences, but think I might have a hard time arguing my case if it was between 2 consenting adults. As long as all concerned are adults and consenting then anything goes.
 
 StBalders  15 May 2008 22:44
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This pushes my libertarian principles to the extreme. I don't necessarily agree that morality is a matter of opinion, but i don't find it relevant in law. I am glad that you had some exclusions, and really the one that makes me squirm so much is the incest, not crazy about polygamy either. However, i am willing to put up with a lot to keep a free society free, although at some point i may regret it.
 
 innomen  15 May 2008 22:37
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Some people need limits; others can do without because they will not go crazy even if everything is permissible between consenting adults.
To remove all limits would mean that suicide would be acceptable as well as cannibalism, incest, etc.
I'm not sure it would be a great idea...
 
 Garamond  16 May 2008 02:31
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 The desire to kill yourself actually means that you're not in your right mind... And the topic's about sex related issues, not death... Canibalism is rarely consensual, also. And if it is, that counts as suicide.

And what's your problem with incest?
by  FoxFire
 16 May 2008 20:14
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For many years I was a card carrying libertarian and believed pretty much anything goes, between consenting adults, or anything goes with oneself i.e legalized drugs, etc.

At the time, I barely acknowledged the "minimalist ethic"--that is if it doesn't hurt anyone else, it's OK.

Since then I have learned, sometimes the hard way, that the things we do impact others in ways we have no idea about. The "bad" things I have done, under my banner "it's OK as long as it doesn't hurt someone else", is a lie, because I had no idea how many of my actions adversely impacted others and hurt them. So, I would only agree with it's OK between two "consenting adults", if they can say they know the entire impact of their actions on others. Since this is impossible, I would have to say I disagree.
 
 charlee  16 May 2008 00:17
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 So does that mean that no relationships should be allowed?

Because that's the only way to ensure that nobody gets hurt.
by  FoxFire
 16 May 2008 00:46
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Relationships in which one partner has acted as parent or guardian to the other during the latter's childhood years should be forbidden by law. In that case, the parent could have brainwashed the child and the child may be unable to make objective judgements, even when the age of adulthood is reached.

To take an extreme example, the person in a position of influence could have instilled in the child's mind the view that he or she is a living god and the child's role is to serve the god. With cults, we have seen that brainwashing is possible even with adults. How much easier is it, therefore, with children whose world can be entirely shaped by the parent or the parent substitute.

It's also an accepted fact of nature that a sexual union between two partners who are genetically related is more likely to produce babies with birth defects. Therefore any incestuous relationship which can produce offspring should be forbidden.
 
 Hidell  15 May 2008 22:55
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 Ever heard of abortion? The children produced by incest can be born defected, yes. But the partners can be screened for genetic diseases. If there's a chance of the child being born defective, then they have exactly the same options available to homosexual couples: don't have kids, adopt, invitro fertilization, also the eggs can be fertilized in a lab and screened for potential problems before the relatively problem free eggs are inserted into the mother's womb.

Yes, there is the risk of a parent influencing a child. There's that risk whenever the partners have influenced each other growing up. This includes close friends, siblings, parents, teachers, and anyone who plays an active role in the child's life. You can't forbid two people above the age of consent to have a relationship though because they were the best of friends growing up, or because one of them happened to be the other's teacher, or whatever.

On the subject of brainwashing: yes, that is also a risk. People are brainwashed all the time. But just because an adult is brainwashed into consenting, you can't criminalize the person they have a relationship with (or I think you can't...) because it's still consensual.

You could argue, and well, against parent-child incest. I'll give you that. But, parent-child incest is the only form of incest in which there's an argument against it other than religion and other than the whole genetic issue (which isn't as hard to solve as you seem to think...).
by  FoxFire
 16 May 2008 00:12
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If that were to be passed, then it would make such atrocities like the story of the two men that met over the Internet legal. One wanted to eat a man and the other wanted to die the most painful death possible. Needless to say, both of them got their wish. While I am aware that cases such as these are obscure at best, it would still make it completely legit.
 
 Jakers  15 May 2008 22:52
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 Good point.
by  Mark
 15 May 2008 22:54
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