» Home » Society
Hitting The Elderly Is OK
If an elderly woman or man came up to you on the street and deliberately back handed you, is it OK to strike back? Explain. I ask this because recently I was at a shopping mall and a very old woman scooted up to me (she had no legs) and bit me on my left ankle! I was startled at first and so I kicked her in the shoulder. I felt bad afterwards, but goodness! I was in shock that she would even do that to me, or anyone! What would you have done? Explain.
 kimberlyda  11 Apr 2009 07:19
                           (What's this?)  Add to Firefox  RSS
If you put it that way then i guess so though the old lady you were talking about probably had some mental disease.....and people always say to me two wrongs don't make a right, but it so does cause then your like...even...
 
 mollyjmojo  27 Apr 2009 06:06
 Add a Comment
 
 
We all have to be put in our place some days..
 
 verum  19 Apr 2009 03:55
 Add a Comment
 
 
What goes around comes around. That shouldn't surprise anyone.
 
 gottfried  12 Apr 2009 00:46
 Add a Comment
 
 
In this case yes because she had no reason to bite you.
 
 tiny101  11 Apr 2009 21:57
 Add a Comment
 
 
Once an old lady said, "Oh, there you are, David," and kissed me on the cheek, mistaking me for some momma's boy. Is hitting her justified? Because I feel bad about jabbing her nerve cluster.
 
 Homestar  11 Apr 2009 18:08
 Add a Comment
 
 
Smack that nutzo upside the head! Might knock some sense into em'.
 
 Specter87  11 Apr 2009 15:19
 Add a Comment
 
 
What a peculiar experience. Are you sure that old lady wasn't a flesh eating zombie trying to spread her disease?

OK seriously, the social expectation to refrain from hitting someone due to them being weaker (whether it be the elderly, a child, a handicapped person, a woman, etc.) is trumped when your use of force is necessary for self protection. It's that simple. And of course the degree of force you use should be the minimal amount necessary to achieve your self protection (meaning kicking her away so she would stop is fine but chasing after her and kicking her again and again would not be - unless she truly were a flesh eating zombie in which case smashing her head would be justified).
 
 Grenache  11 Apr 2009 14:03
 Add a Comment
 
 
Anyone, whether they be a man, woman, or elderly person, who deliberately harms someone they don’t know for whatever reason and expects not to get hurt back is an idiot. I’m a fairly clam person. But let’s say a random woman I don’t know (or at least not very well) comes up to me and slaps me in the face for reasons she hasn’t explained yet. That female dog better be prepared to cover up the black eye she’s about to get with some sunglasses or something. The likelihood of me hitting a woman or elderly person I’m familiar with is low. But a random person I don’t know? The chances rise then.
 
 Hizashi  11 Apr 2009 09:21
 Add a Comment
 
 
If you need to get someone away fast, and kicking her is the only way to protect yourself or stop her from biting, then yes. I believe you did the logical thing. But punch for punch is not OK. You could severely damage someone old and frail. Just curious--what did this apparently senile person do after you kicked her shoulder?
 
 tinseldove  11 Apr 2009 07:40
 1 Comment
 
 She started crying and crawled away
by  kimberlyda
 27 Apr 2009 00:58
Comment
  
Comment
  
You'll probably go to jail if any police people see it and you hurt them pretty badly which is easy to do on someone old.
 
 DdAWg  31 Dec 2009 21:54
 Add a Comment
 
 
Elder abuse is uncool. They are after all, old people...
 
 debategal  16 Dec 2009 04:01
 Add a Comment
 
 
I really wish there was a neutral column on this one. I certainly think that, if you could not get away and needed to kick her to stop her from biting you, then you were right to use force. This one's hard because she was evidentally on the floor, so pushing her away seems not to be an option.

The thing that made me vote on this side is the fact that generally I cannot imagine the need for much force with an elderly person. Pushing them away without hitting them would suffice in most instances that I can think of. Of course, your personal safety is important and the fact that someone is elderly doesn't trump that. Elderly citizens who are suffering from dementia can become violent. Families have a difficult time with elderly relatives who suffer from dementia. It sounds like that might be the problem affecting the lady who bit you. I don't think you should feel guilty about it. It is over now and I don't see too many other alternatives in your situation. Even if she bit you and moved away, I would imagine that kicking her would be an automatic response to being bitten.

Was she alone? I see that tinseldove asked you how she responded. Did she have family with her? I'm just curious. It sounds like she really needs have supervised care at all times. If she had bitten someone who is not as kind as you, she might have gotten herself killed. You obviously are caring. To feel remorse shows that you did not want to hurt her. I feel badly for you. I know I would feel bad too, but you shouldn't. What an alarming and unexpected thing to happen!
 
 my2cents2u  18 May 2009 13:40
 Add a Comment
 
 
What the no it is not what gives you the right to hit anybody and even if they hit you you should be the better person and walk away
 
 shipp  19 Apr 2009 03:55
 6 Comments
 
 what if your life is in jeopardy?!?!?!
by  Prometheus
 05 Dec 2009 06:16
Comment
  
Comment
  
Comment
  
Comment
  
Comment
  
Comment
  
Comment
  
 
So she was on the floor when she bit you in the ankle?
 
 BenXx  11 Apr 2009 22:58
 2 Comments
 
 it's a funny picture, really.
by  SlyOne
 11 Apr 2009 23:49
Comment
  
Comment
  
Comment
  
Sign In / Sign Up
 For and Against Recent Activity
Related Debates
They Shouldn't Be Taxed
Celebrities Shouldn't Have A Responsibility To Set A Good Example To The Public
Pro Choicers Should Be Opposed To Healthcare Reform
It Is Hypocritical Of The Celebrities Involved In The Airplot! Affair To Stop The Expansion Of Heathrow,...
Britain Is Not On Its Way To Becoming A Police State
The Charities Don't Really Give Money To Who They Say They Will
Religion Is In The Western Culture On The Decline
New Urbanism Is Killing Our Sense Of Community
A Fetus Is A Person
Unjust Lawsuits Must Stop!
New Debates
We Can't Allow Texas To Rewrite History.
The Most Famous Religious Texts In Human History Were Not Written Directly By God
If A New Messiah Appeared Today With A Message And Claimed To Replace Jesus & Mohammad & All Others And...
The Devil Is Not A Red Beast With Horns Walking With Impunity Through Flames In Hell And Surrounded By...
God Is Not An Old White Man With A Beard Sitting On A Throne In A Solid Gold Kingdom Up In The Clouds...
Every Once In A While Everyone Should Have A Singsong With Youtube Kareoke And Go Crazy! :D
Should The Drink Drive Limit Be Zero!?
Perhaps It Is Wise For The US And UK To Distance Themselves From Israel
Child Protective Services In Germany Is Abusing Families, Children And Their Government-given Authority...
If America Turns On Israel We Will Lose God's Protection. Obama And Biden's Stance On Building In Jerusalem...