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Dating Someone To Make Someone Jealous Is Plain Stupid
It just is
 hobojoe81  11 Dec 2008 18:20
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Stupid is an understantement, A) it shows that the person doing the manipulation cannot be trusted to be honest; and now that I think about it there's no B, C, etc; that's really the only point that matters. If you can't trust the person you're supposedly so into to tell them you're interested rather than playing the passive agressive game of look how desireable I am then it won't matter if it works or not. Anytime a person who'd do something like that feels threatened they are going to go to an extreme to get what they want. Leads to infidelity, controling manipulation, and outright nutball behavior in general.
 
 clarkkent  19 Jul 2009 17:07
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It work on Angus Thongs and Perfect snogging but Dave the Laugh did get upset... Meanwhile in real life it causes problems
 
 WelshyRhi  01 Jul 2009 21:20
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It's very immature and very unattractive to find out that somebody would do something like that. Selfish, too. To use somebody like that just isn't right.
 
 acidrabbit  08 Jun 2009 23:11
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Always immature, really. Who would respond positively to that? Jealousy is unattractive.
 
 ToObserve  03 Feb 2009 05:38
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So true there is no debating it.
 
 Mystery  13 Dec 2008 02:00
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Why? Who are you dating? Are they better than me? What's wrong with me? Why don't you call anymore?

Yeah, it's stupid.
 
 Grenache  11 Dec 2008 18:46
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 Hey, I'm going out with hobojoe only to make you jealous. And he's going out with me only to make you jealous. We really get on each other's nerves -- will you get jealous and propose already?
by  Lynn
 11 Dec 2008 19:11
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I totally agree. It can get you in trouble more often than not. Such a waste of time and energy.
 
 Starburst  11 Dec 2008 18:22
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 quite so.
by  ToObserve
 03 Feb 2009 05:39
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It's not stupid. It can actually be quite effective.
 
 justsumguy  03 Feb 2009 05:46
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 to what end though? at what price glory?
to lose someone in one easy lesson, sure.
by  ToObserve
 03 Feb 2009 05:49
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I also agree with Specter. To use someone for any reason is immoral. People do not think of other's feelings at times and I realize that there are times that we are all a little less than selfless, but to purposely use someone to get another person interested is a terrible thing to do. I can't even make it work in my mind if they told the other person upfront. Even then, what would that say to the other person. I tried to think of a situation where it would be even not considered cruel, but, all in all, I would have to say that anyone engaging in such behavior is a selfish jerk.
 
 my2cents2u  01 Feb 2009 01:07
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I agree with Spector87. It isn't stupid; it is pathetic. A guy in my church singles group asked me out on a date. He had been dating another girl in the singles group who would not go out with him again. Our date was dismal. He just stared at his food. I knew then he had taken me out to make this other gal jealous. I never told this girl about my date with him. Finally, the guy who took me out asked me, "Well, what did she say when you told her we'd been out together?" I said to him, "I never told her. I don't tell people my personal business." He just said, "Oh." I knew he felt he had wasted his time with our "date", connived just to get a reaction from this other gal.
 
 tinseldove  01 Feb 2009 00:35
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 You are too kind. I believe I would have told him off. That was an awful thing of him to do to you. This coming from a guy in a church singles group...I do not think I would have been as kind as you. I am a very nice person, don't get me wrong and I avoid confrontation as much as possible, but he could have hurt your feelings very badly. Maybe he did. I can't tell that much from your response, but I guess you did get your "payback"...I hate to call it that, when you did not tell the other girl. People stoop to all levels. Never ceases to amaze and sadden me.
by  my2cents2u
 01 Feb 2009 01:02
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I agree with Spector87. It isn't stupid to date someone else to get back at another person. It hurts feelings and brings about the feeling of jealousy, but this isn't stupid.
 
 Tromanator  11 Dec 2008 19:49
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 it is manipulative at the very least, don't you think?
by  Mystery
 13 Dec 2008 02:01
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Male or female? When shown pictures of a woman hanging out with men, guys rated the woman as less attractive than if she were alone or with women. When shown pictures of a man hanging out with women, the female subjects rated him as more attractive than when he was alone or with men.

I would guess that a woman would want to win a guy back if he started dating another woman, but that a guy would just be turned off.
 
 Lynn  11 Dec 2008 19:08
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 I know I would be.
by  Specter87
 12 Dec 2008 03:10
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I'd prefer to call it immoral rather than stupid because it works.
 
 Specter87  11 Dec 2008 18:46
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