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My old friend that moved away wrote a letter to his "loved one" which happened to be me. Who should i choose the for side is for the one i love and the against side is for the one who loves me. I think i love both though. Plz help im confused.
 1andonly  09 Feb 2008 19:11
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Look,love could exist and develop when both of them love each other.
Don't care too much .just ask yourself:Who does I have thing to?
 
 joey00769  17 Jan 2009 15:20
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A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Make her happy .:-))
 
 keepmindok  04 Nov 2008 05:38
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I'm posting on this side because I'm leaning towards it (I wish they had a 'middle of the road' option on For and Against)

I'd say take a close look at your feelings for both of them, and at how they treat you, how they act, etc (the last three might not be the best of indicators if you're talking about publicly, since appearing socially correct is a big influencer on how most people act). Look at the guy who loves you. What are his lovable qualities? What are his unlovable qualities? Could you ever see yourself as more than just a friend with him? Then look at the guy you love. Is he a nice guy? In private or in public. Is he overly concerned with social standards (can be a problem)? Is he too unconcerned with social standards? Does he ever act (publicly or privately) like he might ever like you? (this last one isn't really something to hinge your decision on, and you should probably ask for a non biased third person's opinion where avaible, and when not try to remove yourself from the situation) Is he already the kind of guy you want to be more than just friends with, or are you attached to an ideal? (what he might be) Do you ever see evidence of what his lovable qualities are? (also requires an outside opinion)

I suggest taking a step back to look at things from a not so attached view. That'll help keep confusion and indecisiveness from the picture.

Also, remember: If you choose wrong, it isn't the end of the world. You can break up with him and attempt to go after the other guy. If that fails, there's always other guys out there, who might be even better.

As a point on advice: You're more likely to be happy if you already have feelings for him, although unrequited love can hurt. Absolutely don't go with the guy that loves you if you can't see yourself as being more than just friends. If you can't now, you're not likely to later.
 
 FoxFire  16 May 2008 23:11
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Select the one you love. You have to be true to your heart and completely embrace your emotions....
 
 Tepal  12 May 2008 03:53
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Go for the one you love. It's nice to feel loved by others, but you shouldn't be with someone who you don't love. It will only lead to unhappiness for yourself.

A proper relationship is where both people share the same feelings for each other. No relationship will work if one partner doesn't reciprocate the other's feelings. Be with someone you love, not someone that loves you who you don't love in return!
 
 louise23  12 Feb 2008 12:53
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Choose the one you love! If the guy who loved you was really serious about what he was saying he could have easily asked you out I mean why write a letter? The fact that he had to write a letter just to express his feelings for you shows how you people can not communicate at an emotional level and are just friends. Imagine you accept his offer how will you discuss other problems that usually surface in relationships? By writing letters to each other?
 
 Twilight  11 Feb 2008 15:18
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Go with the one you love. If you go with the guy that loves you then your just making him happy not yourself. Then when you go out with him your leaving the guy you really love behind.
 
 HMSkid  10 Feb 2008 01:00
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Yeah, choose the one you love. If you chose the one that loves you, will you be happy? Probably not.
 
 taffy4jc  09 Feb 2008 20:26
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 Good point
by  1andonly
 09 Feb 2008 20:31
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There i took out the names and everything elsee. Except: No one can answer this for you, but if i was you i would go with the one i love.
 
 spongebob  09 Feb 2008 19:17
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 lol thanks for the names *cough cough* lol i just want to see what other ppl would do. And you don't know the guy. he is like Mr. Perfect. Nate *cough cough* is just a friend. That is all we will ever be friends. I don't know what do to.
by  1andonly
 09 Feb 2008 19:24
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Follow your heart after is it your future......and remember you really can't have your cake and eat it too.
 
 menhim1967  23 Aug 2009 22:13
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I don't think you should be in a hurry to choose either one, Just the fact that you don't know says your love is too new and could be infatuation. If the one who loves you see your a holding back to see if it her you want, she will stay or she didn't REALLY love you either.
 
 stever  18 May 2008 22:02
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Often there remains a dilemma in situations when there are two persons involved in our love life. We tend to choose the one whom we love and that is what most people do without thinking about the consequences. But it is not always wise to choose the one you love because at the end of the day when you will find that the one whom you love may not love you the way you want them to, then you will get to realize how incomplete your relationship has been this far. Whereas when you will see that someone whom do not love, is taking care of you and is loving you the most, giving you the utmost priority in their life then you will understand what it means to love someone and to get loved by someone. Thus choose the one who loves you, not whom you love.
 
 sudipa  10 Mar 2008 04:02
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