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Its abuse, whether they leave are mark or not |
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Yes it is abuse! Well I guess it matters how hard it is but I think that its not ok anyway! Your
children should rely on you as a safe refuge and not a dangerous person! |
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Crazy Stuff. Spanking your kid(s) just shows how darn useless you are at parenting.
Kids are smarter than you think. They listen is you reason. If they do not listen, try listening to
them and compromise. Have Empathy.
If things ever get too out of hand, take away some small privileges.
If you hurt your child to learn a lesson, the kids will remember it. You are a bad bad parent. Very
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I have to be honest and say I do not agree with spanking a child (on the surface of the issue), I
was spanked as a child and honestly it didn't get me anywhere except for ending up with a lot of
anger issues that my step dad helped me work out, his parenting style was very different then my
biological fathers style and you know what? He never laid a hand on me and I actually learnt
something from him in terms of right from wrong and who I was and wanted to be as a person.
At the same time though I think you really need to look at the child in question when deciding on
the best course of action for discipline. If your child is really sensitive chances are you will get
through to them sooner by not yelling/screaming or spanking rather talking to them firmly and taking
something away. This will also vary by age. I think a lot of parents today who complain about having
there "parental rights" in terms of discipline taken away assume that if they could spank there kids
it would/could be a quick fix. Some kids will react in a polar opposite way that ends up more
harmful. |
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I don't think parents should spank. My dad used to spank me, and those are really the only memories
I have of him. Its really emotionally abusive & physically abusive no matter what the child did. I
do not like my father 1 bit. There are other ways to discipline children, because what he did to me
did not work, it only made me more angry at him and I didn't listen to him. My mom on the other
hand never laid a hand on me, she would usually yell and take something away from me. I'm very close
with her and I think she did a very good job raising me. |
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I'm for it because children get hurt easily |
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Spanking is wrong for children, you should have a verbal conversation on what they did is wrong and
he/she shouldn't do it again.
Dang child abusers! |
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There are several other forms of punishment that are far better and effective than spanking a child.
Physical abuse and punishments like spanking leave a child filled with feelings of hatred. A child
may start hating his parents may become a rebel altogether. I believe a parent should know how to
handle their child without having to use extreme measures like physical punishment. |
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I was raised with spankings!!!!!!!! I'm not a killer or a misfit. I know that my parents cared
enough to take the time to attend to me good or bad. There is a vast difference between spanking and
a beating. When the line is crossed that's when the mental damage is done. Time outs are a joke to a
kid. Just a matter of the passage of time to endure. Sending a kid to their room where they have all
their toys is a joke as well. Take away their cell phones, now that's punishment. There is nothing
wrong with a spanking or really taking away something that really matters to them to get your point
across. |
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I am not a child beater, in fact my kids have not had much in that way if at all for a couple of
them. I was brought up on the end of a knuckle sandwich and buckle end of the belt and other items.
However, I have never been in trouble with the law, I am honest and forthright. My kids however
have been inside (well one anyway) all of them have tried drugs, I have two daughters that have gone
astray and one that is waiting to go to court.
People wont think twice about berating a dog to train it , but these days you must not smack a
child. The ones that have had a smack on the bum are the ones that have never been in trouble with
my kids. As a counsellor I see it all the time. Some kids do need some physical punishment, not
abuse as people call it.
So I say yes lets bring back some discipline into the homes and give back some parental rights and
responsibility. No one knows their child better than a parent , and those looking in should mind
their own as they do not know the situation at hand. You cannot judge anything by mere observation,
you have to know the circumstances. |
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How ridiculous to see a show where pathetic parents have to call on a Super Nanny to put their
children on a "naughty blanket."
Absurd. I hated it when I was spanked but I wish I was punished for all of the times I disobeyed so
that I wouldn't become as disobedient as I have been. The Bible- yes, haters- the Bible says that if
you punish your child with the rod (I'm sure it was "humane") that they won't die. They will likely
do what is right. Is that abuse or the best way to deal with rebellious kids? Some parents abuse.
Shame on them for their "overkill."
Parents should teach their children about authorities. If a child knows he or she is not an
authority, then they should know that they don't have the right to punish someone when they do
wrong,
By the way, I am against anyone who is not the parents (I'm not sure about grandparents or family
like them) to spank or physically punish a child. |
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If you don't discipline them they wont take you seriously. They may say they hate you more than
anything but they will get over it. I did. Everyone I know did. Now there is a line between
spanking and abusing. If there are bruises, scrapes, cuts, or marks that's too far. Just slap them
a bit to show that you are in charge, not them. |
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Children should be spanked because it's fun. After a while, as a parent, you just have to unload,
and the dog doesn't always deserved to be kicked! Parenting is not about out smarting your kids,
its about putting and keeping them in their place. I smack my kids upside the head at least 3 times
a month. Yeah they're afraid of me, but the are even more afraid to upset me. So it works.
They'll determine someday what kind of adult they want to be, in the meantime I'll dictate what kind
of kids they are going to be.
Wow. That was fun to write!
I did spank my kids. I don't care if you spank yours or not. I look at it like this - Life deals
us all a lot of "spankings". I believe it is better for my kids to have gotten a wake up call from
me now than to deal with getting many of the spankings life will deal out to them down the road had
I not helped them change their behavior now.
A spanking is nothing more than the final step in an effort to get the child's attention. Pain is a
side-effect, not the goal. If you're spanking a child to cause them pain, or to make you feel
better, it is worth your time to reconsider. Spanking a child to get their attention is not only
appropriate, but should be expected. If a child runs into traffic, throws a temper tantrum, won't
stop biting the dog, refuses to listen, etc... It is in the child's best interest for the parent to
get their attention.
Kicking them is fun too! |
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Most children need spankings. Its important for proper development. And when its done in love and
done properly, they will benefit from it. And, if you ask adults that were spanked as a child (all
i have talked to anyway, which is a lot), they will say they are proud their parents did it. I know
i am. My parents spanked me and I thank them for it. It was not easy for them to do but I am glad
they loved me enough to do it. |
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I was spanked, lightly as a child, so was my sister, when we did very wrong or did something
dangerous to ourselves. Our parents never actually hurt us as such - it was more about the
indignity. I smacked my own daughter about half a dozen times, and she says she cannot even
remember it now! Take away all fear of any punishment and you get kids who will have no boundaries
and easily become out of control. There is an old Jesuit saying, 'give me a child until he is 7 -
and I will give you the Man' |
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But only in extreme circumstances, only with the palm of ones hand, no bruises...
But i hate to see it in the street
in bermuda one can hit their child 'within reason', one father almost beat his daughter to death,
and was no convicted seeing as he believed it was within reason |
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I'm 16 and i think spanking is right. It kept me out of a lot of trouble. Time-out had no effect on
me, and I'm sure it has no effect on anyone. Therefore i believe that a quick swat on the hind end
is the way to go. |
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Proverbs 13:24 he that spareth the rod hateth his son: But he that loveth him correcteth him
betimes. |
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This does not teach them that hitting is okay.
I think it teaches them that there are hurtful
repercussions if they aren't mindful of what they are supposed to be mindful of after they
were taught to be mindful of it. Without this
discipline, flagrant recklessness could be
destructive... You know hurtful towards others. |
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I am doing a speech in school on this topic only i believe that spanking your child could be helpful
and not abuse i mean think about it children that have been spanked are less likely to commit
criminal acts. Non-spanked children tend to be anti-social ect, ect,.... |
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Have you ever tried to put a child in time out. It like wrestling with a bull. The parent always get
stuck with the horns. There is more ways to discipline a child than by spanking. We all know how it
feels to loose that special toy, movie etc. I don't get it when a child is in the middle of Wal-mart
screaming their head off, because the parent has told them "no". The parent gets the "look". So no
matter what a parent does they are always the bad guy. So can you honestly tell me putting a child
in time-out and have to look at a wall is effective. |
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It is a for of discipline for the parents. Only parents should be allowed to spank their child. |
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Children should be seen and not heard. So if they cant keep quiet or behave themselves, they should
be whipped and beaten with a stick until they shut up. If they still noisy they should be beaten and
kicked until they are blue n black. |
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If you put them in time out all the time they will NEVER learn. They think well its only a few
minutes. Then they will go and do it again. There is a difference between beating em and spanking
em. There is nothing wrong with spanking them and timeout does not work at all! |
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It's discipline. They need it early in their lives. |
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I think that children should be spanked because it teaches them not to be brats and to get their
way! |
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Children absolutely should be spanked. It's not the first resort for behavior modification, but it
most certainly does work and those who are spanked quickly learn not to do that anymore. |
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