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Can You Love Two?
Do you believe it is possible to be honestly in love with two people?
 dumitchell  21 Feb 2008 03:24
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Yeah it comes up at least in loves infancy. But I'll tell you this for nothing you better choose quick or you WILL lose both.
 
 finsch  02 Dec 2008 00:27
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I think so. I saw a Dr. Phil episode where this lady loved this one guy but then he disappeared, so she fell in love with this other guy, and then the other guy came back, so she was stuck choosing which person to stay with, when she loved both of them. (she went with the second guy).

But I highly recommend that you do not put yourself in that situation.
 
 bookworm3  01 Dec 2008 22:42
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If you are a split-dual-personality, sure, why not.
Otherwise? No. No integrated-ego or psychology needs two lovers.
Put your love into two people? You will lose both, and should.

"Oh what a tangled love-life we weave, when at first we practice to deceive both". You get the general picture.
 
 Mystery  01 Dec 2008 21:48
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Yes you can be in love with two people. It is a confusing situation and troublesome. But you love the one for what the other isn't. This world would be perfect if you can take bits and pieces from both and combine them into one. But it is not that simple. The only way to find out is to let the one go or both to have clarity to your feelings.
 
 rosa  01 Oct 2008 12:48
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What about the person who has a love die? You still love the person even though they has passed away yet you can love another.
 
 boy2girl31  30 Sep 2008 22:46
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 Love is a very complex equation.
It is not that simple to explain.....and it is not ALL, actual "Love"....is usually Sex mixed with a sort of entangled-attraction-affection.....hard to explain....and probably illegal anyway, so.....I better not go there. ;-)

what I meant was, I understand the complexity of your question.

you can definitely feel something for two men at the same time....it is not probably good to do or good for you, but it is possible in some complicated way: I do not believe though, that Love, should be complicated.
If you only love one, then its pure, and undefiled. It is better that way, way better just one man one woman. God knows best:-)

When your husband or wife dies, whom you loved truly?
In every way? The right way and the hot way?
Honour and respect and trust and loyalty and companionship?

They were your family.

Of course you will always love your family. No doubts.

But you will meet someone new, and they will make their own place, build their own room in your heart where no one can share your affections in exactly the same way.....every one is unique and special in their own way. Not the same way, but in their own way, yes.

You can love two - in some sense - not exactly though.

All males give off a resonance , a heat....no woman can ignore...it is probably based in the hard-wiring....the chemistry...the animal-side of the human-nature: science could probably find the answer: pheromones...........
or, basic need for physical comforting/affection for the female, some people have a greater need for affection than others do, everyone knows and we have all seen or done this one....
but, being attracted to several males...it is normal....I think...I HOPE! Gosh, I don't know.
But, it is not so simple to try and explain.
Love is a very interesting complex concept and experience and it varies greatly from individual to individual.
in my opinion.
by  Scorpion
 30 Sep 2008 22:57
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Love is a hard and long path. I would imagine it growing the entire time just as each person grows with their love. Along that path you will probably love other people with some former intensity of that love and the idea that some love is less than other love is ridiculous to me. But lying to yourself and your heart about where your letting yourself be strayed is damaging to everyone involved. Yourself surely included.
 
 characters  27 Aug 2008 12:43
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Yes It Is Possible
I Won't Bring Up The Mormons But I Fell in Love Once, And Didn't Fal out Again. And Since Then I've Fallen In Love Three More Times
 
 ScottyRAWR  12 Aug 2008 00:29
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Yes, i love my mommy, my sister, my brother,...myself..my jessiey and my colby XD lol
 
 jezhicka  15 Jul 2008 11:59
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 I hear ya ;-)
by  Scorpion
 27 Jul 2008 00:19
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The majority of people LOVE two. Their partner and themselves.
 
 joe9  13 Jul 2008 20:28
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 that's not what the question is asking.!
its asking if you can love two people at the same time.excluding ourself.
try reading the question again, and give it a better answer.
by  lq04
 15 Jul 2008 10:41
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Humans aren't naturally monogamous. Of course we can love more than one person.
 
 asphyDrake  13 Jul 2008 20:23
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 but not for a relationship, not at the same time.!!
by  lq04
 15 Jul 2008 10:42
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It is possible so yes, but most likely someone would just be attracted to two people.
 
 jacknalen  24 May 2008 01:31
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 so then it isn't possible if its just attraction.
by  lq04
 15 Jul 2008 10:38
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It is possible to love two people at once, because it has happened to me. By the point of this you just can't be with both people. You can't be totally compatible with two people because maybe one person is just not right for you. Mainly you just have to use your judgement.
 
 JAYJAY2008  08 May 2008 13:54
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Of coarse you can, If a person dies,
will your love die too? People continue loving the last one the were with and get
heavily involved with someone new, so
if you can this way you can anyway.
 
 Bacchus  30 Apr 2008 01:57
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 that's true, but i think the question means if you can love two people at the exact same time, like both of them being alive.
which i think isn't possible.
by  lq04
 15 Jul 2008 10:43
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Yes, you can. I've fallen for two people simultaneously before, with equally strong feelings, and with more feeling than a lot of people I knew put into loving one person (of course, that was high school...) and I've had friends who fell in love with two, three, or in one case four people at the same time and had to choose between them (my circle of friends had and has a LOT of drama in the love and dating department...) So, obviously, it's possible.
 
 FoxFire  25 Apr 2008 16:31
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 maybe you were just obsessed or greatly infatuated, love is a little more complicated than that, you cant just say i'm gnna choose you because of a certain reason.
by  lq04
 15 Jul 2008 10:45
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Yes you can be in love with two people or 200 people it don't matter but its always a different kind of love for each person.
 
 freak8969  23 Apr 2008 03:12
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I honestly think it is possible.
 
 im_trumpet  22 Apr 2008 13:37
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You can love two, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you are going out with both of them
 
 Sammy  14 Apr 2008 19:32
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 Love needs to be protected by boundaries: fences.
Like a raging river needs banks on both sides to control the course of the flood.....only date one person at a time. Period.
Do not question the logic of this, OK? It is just truth.

Date two? You WILL, will lose both.
by  Scorpion
 30 Sep 2008 23:14
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Though it sounds absolutely impossible but the fact remains to be that there have been cases in the world where one person is seen to have loved two different individuals and have been equally committed towards both of them. It is not a very normal condition and it also involves a lot of unwanted situations which the person has to face but knowing all these facts also he or she has fallen in love with two individuals in their life. What happens is, you are having a relationship and at the same time you feel equally attracted and emotionally weak towards another person. Though your first love is no where guilty but still you don’t find a way out to stop yourself from loving the second person. Thus it can happen that you may love two individuals at a time.
 
 sudipa  10 Mar 2008 04:06
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 "and have been equally committed towards both of them"

Now THAT kinda takes the commitment out of "committed" doesn't it???
by  momof3
 31 May 2008 21:38
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Yes, everyone you love, you love in a different way.
 
 vexed  21 Feb 2008 17:52
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 um, yeah,
but the question means, loving two people in a relationship.!!
by  lq04
 15 Jul 2008 10:49
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It will be extremely hard but ...yes
 
 Anthony93  21 Feb 2008 17:24
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Of course you can love two people. All the people of the world should love each other.
 
 green15  21 Feb 2008 16:31