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Arranged marriages fine, both people are consenting. Its the forced marriage idea in certain
religons that I would find to have the problems in. |
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Of course arranged marriages are okay, in some religions they are part of it!! However; by this i
mean those couples that aren't pressurised into doing so but actually consent to it. |
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Arrange or love marriage, it's the personality that counts. I have seen many people dating for
months and years and they still end up divorce. |
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By arranged I don't mean a forced marriage! No way that is wrong, totally. I mean that your parents
choose someone for you and you accept their choice. Not by force but by your own will. There is a
difference. As for those people who say marriages are not supposed to be arranged. Back in ancient
time in all cultures, marriages were arranged and they seemed to last fine fine and well. I don't
mean to say that you should have one. I'm just curious as to how many people think it is OK for
arrange marriages to happen. |
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In some cultures (ancient Germany), arranged marriages allowed the parents to meet, inspect, and
interview their child's spouse in order to make sure the person was healthy and a reasonable match
(and hopefully an advantageous match). Ideally, the parents would want someone who is right for
their child, and who knows a child better than the parents?
But forced, abusive marriages are very, very bad. |
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I think there is a very fine line between an arranged marriage and a forced one. This is a debate I
would rather have voted neutral on, but I guess I sympathise with faith on this one. Many cultures
have existed for centuries due to the trust between generations this creates. I have no problem
ideologically with arranged marriages, though they are not for me. |
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You don't marry someone who you can live with, but you marry the person who you cannot live without. |
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Can I Please Find Someone I Love And Not Forced To Love Someone?
I Find It So Much Better |
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Arranged marriages are wrong because if you think about it (lets say there's a girl and shes young
teen) she is told she getting married to whoever and she cant date ever she is only allowed to be
with a random person well is that good no because she wont be ready for a relationship she wouldn't
know what was right or wrong i wouldn't do that at all Love was created by god to choose who you
want to be with your parents cant choose i think that's its unfair and mean and horrible and
actually your parents are there to help you grow into a woman and be able to choose these choices
whats the point if your parents do already |
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I can think of better things to do with my life than have my mom and dad decide it for me.
A really great pal of mine has one, he has been unfaithful and miserable all his life. I don't know
why they never divorced. His wife is lovely but she to is miserable in the relationship. |
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Arranged marriages suck. What if you turn 18 and your parents are like, "By the way, you're married
to (Insert name here)."
WHERE'S THE LOVE!?!?!?!?! |
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There would be no love. Getting married is about two people who love each other so much and want to
spend their lives together, Not about two strangers forced into it. |
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Human beings are animals, but not chimpanzees.
We do not force humans into captivity to breed like dogs in a cage: Arranged marriages is like
arranging a hanging: It is inhuman. |
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Absolutely not. I really disagree with this. An arranged marriage involves being forced to marry who
your parents think are suitable for you, not what you think yourself. I honestly think that I would
go mad if my parents forced me into marrying someone who I felt no attraction to.
I've never agreed with it. It's wrong and ridiculous. Yes, it may work for some people, but they are
lucky. A marriage is supposed to last forever. Imagine being married to someone for the rest of your
life who you don't love or even feel remotely attracted to. The thought is unbearable.
Every individual should in control of their own life. No one should control it for them. They should
decide who they marry, have a family when they are ready, have a job that makes them happy and be
financially independant. Happiness does not come from having your life controlled by anyone else,
not even your parents.
I would rather be in love with someone and have it go wrong than spend a lifetime with someone who I
felt no attraction to. At least with someone you love you have something happy to look back on. Even
if it goes wrong, you still have the memories, which would be much happier than if you were stuck in
a marriage where you just felt as though you were being suffocated. |
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Arranged marriages are not the way marriage is supposed to be. Marriage is for two people who love
one another and want to spend the rest of their lives together after dating and getting to know one
another. Arranged marriages are so unfair to the people involved. They are forced together by their
parents opinions and forced to get along. This is not the solution to America's happiness or any
person's happiness. Why should two people that don't even know one another and might not get along
be made to live forever together? |
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No this is wrong, aranged marriage means ban on us or our life. |
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Look, there are undoubtedly some people who are satisfied with their arranged marriages as well as
some people who make it work for other reasons (money, power, lack of will to fight for the
alternative). But some "successes" (if you can call them that) does not equate to validation of the
practice. Arrangements open the door to abuse because the people trapped in them are expected to
stay no matter what. Parents may hand youths over to people older, uglier, or reprehensible in some
way simply because it's good business sense for the family. And just because the divorce rate may
be higher in voluntary marriages does not mean arranged marriages are better or the sacrifice of
freedom of choice is worthwhile. What if your elders could control your money your whole life,
maybe do a better job of investing it or spending it frugally than you, does that mean you should
surrender your right to control your own money? What about voting in democracies, should your
parents simply choose who your vote goes to because your not smart enough to make as good of a
choice? I mean it's different if they make a suggestion and you actually agree. They can suggest
you do something, even suggest who you marry, but the choice needs to be your own, or else you're no
better than their property. |
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Maybe I'm not all that informed on this, but doesn't the word "arranged" imply "forced"? Does the
fact that parents know their child, as JRL says, give them the right to chart their adulthood?
Historically, arranged marriages were set up to benefit two families, not the two people being
thrown together. I'm not even sure this debate is really relevant anymore. It certainly isn't in the
modern Western world, as far as I know, but maybe I'm wrong. I will say it is a recipe for disaster,
relationship-wise. Two adults should be free to choose their mate. No one has the right to make that
decision. Not a parent, or anyone else. |
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Nah, arranged marriages says what parents like in a son or daughter in law, not what their children
like. It is usually expected also that with a planned marriage some sort of bond is formed between
families that isn't usually needed between usual marriages. This bond is usually a corporate bond of
business, where the two families make completely sure that that other is financially well. They even
on a custom make sure that their family business -if they have one- is joined by the other family.
Planned marriages are made by greed or by a simple lack of respect for ones children. That is my
opinion. |
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I don't agree, sorry but i have to say an arranged marriage is a disaster, people are not always
fortunate enough to be arranged with a mature spouse(an unappealing person probably) like you
knowing how to love others or take care of others...sort of things, you shouldn't be resigned to
what's happening, love actually....arranged marriages are just dull... |
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