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They should know since they are young,
Because once they grow up it becomes extremely hard to accept their real parent’s identity |
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Here's some points you could use:
1) Family medical history could be critical to child's future medical diagnoses and treatments
(Heart disease, Schizophrenia, Asperger Syndrome, etc.) 2) Although ethnic concerns should not
matter - frankly it does sometimes (holocausts, minority scholarships, etc.) and an adoption agency
isn't going to have layers of family ethnic history - just the apparent skin color ethnicity. 3)
It's a check and balance on the authoritarian powers of the adopting family. They may not turn out
to be better parents than the biological couple after all. If the link with the original parents
isn't totally severed they'd have some right to stick up for their offspring. 4) It's human
decency. You have a right to know where you came from. |
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I think it's an excellent idea
But it's adopted |
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My sister and I are both adopted and neither one of us has a desire to know our biological parents.
There are some good reasons to know about one's biological family, such as health conditions that
are genetic, etc. If an adopted child or grown adult wants to know their biological parents, that
shouldn't be discouraged, in my opinion. As for myself, I feel that the parents who kissed my
boo-boos, tucked me in each night, cared for me throughout my life, loved me unconditionally, taught
me right from wrong and were my biggest supporters in life ARE my only real parents. I miss them
both terribly and I could never bring myself to find and start any kind of relationship with my
biological parents because I feel that would be a betrayal, but again, that is a personal feeling
about myself and my relationship with my parents. I think that this is a grey area...some people
who were adopted may feel the need to find their biological parents and that is their right. If,
however, the adoptive child has no interest, I cannot see why it would be something they should
pursue. Everyone is different and each family has different dynamics. There are also different
types of adoptions. Mine and my sister's were closed. I never knew anything of my biological
parents and my sister didn't either. I appreciate that they had the strength to give me up and feel
that God put me with the perfect family for me. : ) |
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My husband adopted my daughter. Her biological father was extremely abusive. She will never know
him. In some cases..adopted kids shouldn't know their biological parents. It's a case by case thing. |
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Open adoption is not for everyone. It all depends on the situation. If the child's biological
parents were abusive to him/her, I would have had a hard time dealing with this. Because of the
push for open adoptions we preferred to go through fertility treatments.
But, most adopted children do seek their biological families at some point in their lives and if the
records are sealed, they may not be happy about your decision. |
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13 Aug 2008 14:34
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